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BM is back to her clownish ways, engaging in clown-like behaviors…

momjeans's picture

and that's an insult to clowns.

There were a couple brief incidents over the Christmas holiday while SD was here visiting us. Those were minuscule and very "meh," in my opinion. But last night? Ooooooh boy.

Yesterday was SD's winter formal. Her first dance ever. Real memory making stuff, right? SD FaceTimes DH early in the afternoon to share her joy and excitement with him while getting her hair and makeup done. They end their video call and she states she'll FaceTime him again later before her date arrives and she leaves for the dance. Cool cool. 

What wasn't cool was that when SD FaceTimes the second time - BM pops on, because OF COURSE SHE DOES. She's uber tipsy and is being all loud and theatrical about SD and "Just look at her! She's sooooooo beautiful!" Goes on and on and on. So loud. I'm sitting in another room, enjoying a glass of wine, now chugging it because the secondhand embarrassment I'm feeling for SD at the point is through the roof. I can hear DH acknowledging it all in an uncomfortable tone. It's just an utterly cringeworthy one woman clown show at this point. 

The call ends and I'm all of a sudden having flash forwards with what future life events will be like for SD. I don't know wether to laugh or cry. I thought we had majorly purged ourselves of BM and her lame shenanigans at this point in life. If this is a new chapter, I'm not going to embrace it with kindness and grace.

Adding: DH sent SD a text immediately after they ended their FaceTime call, informing her that's to not ever happen again if she can help it. That he wishes to only talk with her (SD), and only her, when she calls - and vice versa.

DH stated SD agreed, apologized, and stated BM had ingested a few drinks at that point, 4pm their time, on the evening of her daughter's first formal. SD isn't old enough to drive yet, btw, do that immediately makes her down one adult to depend on if needed. 

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lieutenant_dad's picture

Poor SD. No matter how annoying an SK is, I can't help but feel sorry for them when their parent acts like a fool. It's unfair to the kid, but definitely opens a window into why they may behave the way they do.

momjeans's picture

Oh, absolutely.

At this point, SD has a better head on her shoulders than BM does. As in, as SD matures into a solid young adult, BM is going back to her horribly childish, attention-seeking ways. 

Just this summer SD confided in me that her mother is forever showing her, in a low-key way, how she doesn't want to be as she gets older. It was pleasantly surprising. 

Stepfor27yrs's picture

When she gets married some day, the BM will do all sorts of embarrassing shenanigans to be front and center. Be prepared for it so it won’t be so shocking. 

grannyd's picture

Hey momjeans, I barely recognized you with the new avatar! It looks like not much has changed with BM; all that's required now is a visit from your MIL & FIL to drive YOU to drink, nome sayin'? Bad

Nice to see you back! Give rose