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Submitted by momjeans on Tue, 05/25/2021 - 10:09am

LOL.

Skid (almost 15) sent DH's mom a very generous gift on Mother's Day. I only know this, because MIL made damn sure to post about it, along with a photo, on the book of faces. 

DH's birthday came and went a few days ago. What did skid get for her dad? Zip, zilch, nada.

My immediate thought? This is what you get when you allow your own mom to play gatekeeper and second mom with your child. And there's MIL... lapping it all up.

Skid will be here in a few weeks for summer visitation, which is generally almost three months of pure obnoxious hell. She didn't come last summer or Christmas, which was absolute bliss. 

I have a feeling this is going to be a fun visitation (evil grin).

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Submitted by grannyd on Tue, 05/25/2021 - 10:32am

Yo, Momjeans, I've missed you! Wonder if SD will bring along the 'journal'? Just remember, Hon, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger..... 

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Submitted by momjeans on Tue, 05/25/2021 - 11:44am

I've missed you as well!

Oh, yes. The glorious journal-gate summer. Good times. 

I'm willling to bet skid still journals, but does it super secretly now. 

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Tue, 05/25/2021 - 11:01am

I've missed you, too!

And love that you have no bleeps left to give for your H reaping what he's sown. His family was jacked up well and good before you came along, anyway.

How are your bios? Everything else good in your world?

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Submitted by momjeans on Tue, 05/25/2021 - 11:42am

I've missed you too!

Words so true. Not my circus, not my monkeys. I'm merely only a spectator at this juncture. I was well into dropping the rope before the pandemic hit, then I went radio silent, 100% no contact with DH's entire family. It has done wonders for my mental health. 

The kids (5 and 7) are doing amazingly well, for what we all endured this last year. Distance learning has worked well for us, considering I work from home half the time. 

How are you!?

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Tue, 05/25/2021 - 12:12pm

Coping. Not a peep from the SDs, so good on that front but my DH just had his sixth surgery in six years so I'm busy with that.

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Submitted by momjeans on Wed, 05/26/2021 - 7:20am

MIL wouldn't have it any other way. 

I'm starting to think skid (her first biological grandchild) is her "do over" child / daughter she didn't have. It's... odd. 

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Submitted by diver111 on Fri, 05/28/2021 - 9:10am

Same here. MIL is obsessed with SD and couldn't give a flip about other people. I have always believed that she wanted to raise SD as her own (maybe that would've been a better situation!). She has always been the go-between for DH and BM, long before I was around. It's not a healthy situation, but I don't think it will change at this point. Just have to endure it and continue to disengage! 

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Submitted by diver111 on Fri, 05/28/2021 - 9:11am

Same here. MIL is obsessed with SD and couldn't give a flip about other people. I have always believed that she wanted to raise SD as her own (maybe that would've been a better situation!). She has always been the go-between for DH and BM, long before I was around. It's not a healthy situation, but I don't think it will change at this point. Just have to endure it and continue to disengage!