Skid and summer visitation
I have a gut feeling that skid’s summer visitation is still going to happen, based on my MIL’s excessive lovebombing and hoovering behavior towards me as of late.
I haven’t responded to any of MIL’s texts or FaceTime calls in over a month, and all that does is make her ramp up the need for communication much worse. She has a history of being like this right before she goes over DH and makes the executive decision to grant BM’s visitation wishes.
It’s very much MIL’s MO to try and get in my good graces immediately before she makes a conscious decision to cross the line.
DH talks to skid by text and FaceTime a few times a week. Every time they talk, he reminds her that summer visitation is a no-go this year. Skid seems to acknowledge and clearly understand the reasoning behind this decision.
I hate to be so pessimistic, but every time it comes up, I gently, but firmly, inform DH that he needs to be prepared for his mom (and dad) to disregard his decision and grant BM’s wish to allow summer visitation to carry on as usual. His response to that is that he’d “be very disappointed” if they did that.
Skid would be flying in from the west coast, a SoCal town that received an “F” on their social distancing efforts. We have been doing our best here, with the exception of DH still working and me working 80% of the time from home. I physically go into work twice a week still to do paperwork.
I’m trying my best to not get worked up about it before anything actually happens, but it’s hard. I’m just so sick and tired of them having ANY amount of control or say in things that in turn will go against my own personal boundaries.
I know codependent + enabling MIL is low-key miserable being holed-up with FIL and stay-at-home drunk BIL, and would love skid’s company, but yeah... I’m not having any of that in my home.