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Can she keep me from SS?

missangie1978's picture

So BM is coming back to town. Fiancee and I have decided to do a modified visitation plan with her with a court appointed mediator. If she won't do that than we'll go to court.

The problem we are having is that she keeps leaving voicemails saying that when Fiancee works late she wants SS with her, she doesn't want me watching him. Thats insane and Fiancee is pissed and said no way.

Is it possible for her to do that? If she kept SS on days Fiancee worked late than SS would just get to be a angry kid that's failing school, which is what he was before we got custody of him.

I'm just worried that this is possible that she can actually keep me from watching SS.

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Nymh's picture

I wouldn't think that she could do this, and if so it wouldn't be easy. It's going to be really hard for her to prove to a judge that not only do you pose a threat to SS, but that being around you is more detremental to him than carting him back and forth to her house whenever your fiance works late.

If BM in our situation has taught me anything, it's that judges and lawyers see through this type of behavior from BMs and it usually doesn't make it to the courtroom. If it does, no judge in his right mind would rule against you because it's pretty obvious that BM is just being petty.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

Cruella's picture

I don't see how a Judge would justify keeping you away since you are engaged and will be married to BF. My DH ex wife tried that same stunt when we were engaged trying to keep the kids away from me when the children adored me. She lives in another country and he quite frankly to go to Hell. The hypocrite runs off to another country with another man and she has the audacity to try to control my DH's love life. Seems to me since your BF has custody what needs to made clear is that BF has the say so in his own house. It is not like you are babysitting in her house. He needs to set the record straight with her.

holeekrap789's picture

Unless she can prove abuse or neglect of some sort against you...not your BF then she doesn't have any say over anything you do in that house with SS. I went through it here and while a step parent is not allowed to physically discipline a child they are not legally restricted from being a parental figure or role model in that childs life. She has no grounds.
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