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Midwest Stepmom's picture

Today BS giggled for the first time and it made me sad that my maternity time is up in a week, and I'm going to overnights. This also makes me HATE BM even more. While I'm at work for 12 hour shifts and not seeing my baby. She gets to sit at home with ss12, her dh and 4 lust nuggets and live off welfare and child support.

I guess I want a better future for my child, so to work I shall go.

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Tiffanyartist11's picture

My god that is so frustrating. I feel your pain. BM basically lives off our money. She works part time and does whatever the hell she wants while we work ourselves to death.

SMto2's picture

I feel your pain. Since 8 weeks old, each of my 2 DSs have been in some sort of day care for 10-11 hours a day, while BM worked "part time" (if that) and her mother kept the SSs. (And according to BM, she paid her mom $800/mo to watch them while she worked 3-4 hours a day, most of which was assigned to DH to pay as part of his CS.)

Therefore we could not afford for me to work part-time. And in all fairness, as a litigation attorney, it would be hard for me to work part-time anyway. I just focused on my career all those years (we paid our last CS in May) and have made sure to try to enjoy the time with my DSs that I have and make it count. It has made me value my time with them so much more and not take it for granted. Also, because of my career, our family has a very good dual income, so we are able to afford a very comfortable lifestyle for my DSs to have a high quality of life, and my DSs have the benefit of seeing what a hardworking (non-lazy!) woman looks like! Hang in there!