Trying hard to let it go- BM entitlement
It is ss12s time to spend his week with us. In the beginning of the weekend he forgot his prescribed medicine at Bms house.
On Sun we had to attend an important event and Dh noticed that SS hadnt gotten a haircut for quite a long time and could not see bc his hair was too long in front. I gave SS a NEEDED trim( he also wears glasses too!) at the behest of dh who wouldve shaved ss12s head.
Today(monday) i stopped by BMs with SS so he could pick up his medicine( dh at work medicine beforw noon). As SS is inside, out comes BM.
she tells me that the haircut looks bad and that she suggests taking him to a professional because school starts( she didn't know when lol) and the kids will make fun of him and he will cry and be sad.
I told her that i trimmed based on the haircut that was already there bc he could not see since the hair was so long.
I told dh that I will pretend to forget and she can use CS money to give her child a professional haircut. The hair is out of his eyes which is the main concern.
A bit of background: BM has for the last few years consistently sent ss over in stained, torn, illfitting clothes. Used money from his CS to feed her other son and buy herself booze. Sent SS over hungry and told him to ask his dad for money for food. Not bathed Ss for weeks. Demanded money and the schedule she wants from dh then witheld ss for a month. Asked DMIL for money and groceries. ...the list could be pages long.
Whereas petty agreement stated that the residential parent provide clothes and haircuts. So her coming to me all entitled made me angry( especially because she has a pattern of neglect IMO).
Trying hard to let it go but this entitled attitude infuriates me.