DH! Dude, WTF?!
So, I posted this earlier: http://steptalk.org/node/164675
I had plans with my mom this afternoon to go to lunch (our dog was killed on Saturday, and this is the first time I have been able to get her out of the house). These plans were made before DH started on his insanity run.
When I was showering, etc., DH called and texted numerous times. I chose not to return the calls or texts, as I was still upset about earlier events, but he persisted. I finally texted him and told him that I was pissed about him logging into my online accounts and just been distrusting in general. Immediately, DH started with the "I'm so hurt. You hurt my feelings by changing your password. You did this. You did that. Blah, blah, blah." He refuses to accept responsibility that he did anything wrong.
I left the house a little after 10a to go to my mom's. We went out to lunch, and my phone was still blowing up with texts from DH. "Where are you? What are you doing? Hello? Hello?!" My mom had been near tears the entire meal, and DH's nuts-o-ness was the farthest thing from my mind, so I did not answer his texts until after the meal. At that point, he informed me that he was at home and knew that I hadn't been there since at least 10:15a. :jawdrop: I was MAD. DH has a commission-only job that is 45 minutes away, and he has yet to make the rent for September (he pays the rent, I pay utilities) because he had taken last Friday-Monday off. I told me to go back to work, and he said there was "no way he could work in his condition". His nonsense continued, until he asked me to come home because he was "more important" than whatever I was doing. Excuse me? No. You're whining, should be at work self is not more important. I refused to respond to anymore texts.
I ended up leaving my mom's around 2:40p (I was having a conversation with a friend via text and told her that I was leaving my mom's, so I know for sure what time it was) and went to get gas and Taco Bell. I got back home around 3:10p. DH was not here, but his work clothes and shoes were laying in the bedroom floor, so I know he did not go back. It was about 20 minutes later when DH came home. When I asked him where he'd been, he said "Oh, I was on such and such road, looking at the car lots". DH works at a dealership, and I knew there'd be no way that he would be going to car lots. Not to mention that we aren't even in the market for a new vehicle. He asked me where I'd been, and I let him know that I was with my mom all afternoon.
Fast forward to about an hour later. **
DH: I don't want you to get mad, but when I was out earlier, I drove past your mom's house at 2:25p, and you weren't there.
Me (not realizing the time he'd said): I went to get gas and then to Taco Bell. Why did you drive past my mom's?
DH: I just wanted to see if that's where you were.
So now, I'm pissed off again. I am not a child. I have never cheated on DH. I do not need to be followed around. It just angers me to no end that he would lie and say that I wasn't there at the time. In fact, around that time, we were sitting on the sofa, looking out the window because my mom's neighbor was apparently being questioned by his parole office (who knew?). DH NEVER drove by, that I saw.
What do I do? What would you do? I think that there are issues around BM cheating on him, but DH refuses to go to therapy and says he doesn't have a problem. He blames everything he does on me.
I'm not happy.