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Spending the night

Ladystark's picture

Im not sure we will be doing another one when my son is here.

Ss13 invited a friend over sunday night. We had another couple over for crabs, and had a little cookout.

It was ok till bs8 had to show his ass! I get it he wanted to hang with them, but yelling at them- trying to take things they wanted from them- does not make you friends.

I had to have a stern talk, about you cant force friends, and that the kid was not there for him. I tried to get him a little friend it just did not workout.

Even still ss13 is not nice to bs, and this kid(he is either 11 or 12) went full on ss side. Even after i yelled at them to stop wrestling, a little later he was the ring leader in starting the fighting back up.

I like ss other friend- he actually is a nice mix to where he will play with my son, and talk to us.

This kid tries to act older than he is, made sure to tell my son he is to little, and him and ss got into these weird whispery convos, i did not care for that. Why be downstairs playing wii with everyone just to whisper- ss13 has wiiu upstairs- go upstairs and do that crap!!

But ss13 really got me later- he is the worst host ever. I was cleaning up, putting food away, and i heard his friend ask- NOT ONCE BUT 3 times, can i get some real food?
Ss basically ignored him, didnt answer him at all, so ss comes up to me ( im thinking finally he is going to ask what they can eat) haha no- he asks "are you cleaning up?" Me "yup" long pause waiting for more, he shrugs his shoulders, takes the chips left in a bowl on table plops down to finish off chips. There still a full bag of chips in kitchen- his friend sits down and stares at him!

Omg my mother would have gave me hell for that- of course id never do that we were taught our friends are our responsiblity!

So i take over and get his friend food, and show him the snack area.

I WILL BE TALKING TO SS ABOUT THAT RUDE CRAP

But it might be awhile before he has another spend the night.

He is just so immature- and he is way to show offy with another kid here... and his spazy self is even worse, i mean the walls do not move, yet he ran in to our kitchen wall not once but just about everytime they went into kitchen... ugh

Another thing that gets me with these boys, is the giggly sleeping in same bed.

Everytime ive had a friend i slept on floor guest got bed, if i ever slept in a friends bed, which was rare, it was head to feet.

I dont know he has a bunk bed, why did one not sleep on top?

Im probably over thinking that- and i hate sleeping with people- lol. I tolerate dh, but god i like my space.

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Ladystark's picture

The food stuff was about 9-930pm, so dh was trying to clean up outside, so of course he was not there for any of the asking for food.

But he probably would not have noticed anyway.

Ladystark's picture

We might have to go to that, because with younger kids in the house, if their up being rowdy everyone is up. Or i hear my son opening and closing his door a million times because he wants to know what they are laughing about.

I was lucky my sisters and i were close in age, so we did not have to worry about little kids, or someone being to little for watching movies.

ESMOD's picture

We did it because not only did we not want to have to host other kids but we didn't want to have to allow my Skids to stay elsewhere too. You know like at homes where you are not 100% sure of the parents or where you are sure you don't want to host that kid.

Now, we did allow the girls to bring a friend along when they got to be old enough when we took them on vacation. But at home? no. You see these kids all day in school. Can visit after school and all day during the summer. Night is for sleeping!

My YSD was a little worse with her hosting skills so she was older before we allowed her to bring friends too. A lot of times you have to just gauge the ability of the kid when making decisions.

Totalybogus's picture

I think it's not fair for you to stop ss from having sleep overs because 13 year old boys don't want to play with an 8 year old. You would have avoided most of that mess if you would have kept your son away from them for the night.

I understand you don't feel ss has the social grace to have a person spend the night, but that would actually be a good teaching moment.

Ladystark's picture

Ehh he has plenty of weekends without my son here, to have sleepovers, if we do another one.

This teenager is not missing out on anything.

But thanks for your opinion.