I'm at a loss about BM over communication...
I have confronted BF about this several times, including this morning. I've been past my limit and telling him I'm out the bloody door if this toxicity is continuously invited into my relationship. He always says he'll be better about enforcing boundaries and in general it's better than before.... but it isn't where I've always expressed I've wanted it to be.
BM is the type who disrespects reasonable boundaries and sends long-winded, abusive messages that have nothing to do with the well-being of SS5. I would definitely support open communication between co-parents, but I feel that's a privilage for those who can be respectful. Since BM is a bully I've told BF he needs to cut off all the messaging since he'll still engage in back-and-forth with her. This is advice coming from not only all of you experienced folks, but multiple friends who are MFTs, and my aunt who is a family law attorney.
BF keeps giving reasons why he feels there needs to be open communication on email, What'sapp, phone calls, texts, etc. He says "what if there's an emergency. I want to be able to skype with SS5 when I want to and she is also allowed to in the CO. It will look bad in front of a judge if I'm not flexible to her wants." I think these are all BS excuses.
It's. Always. Something. With this woman. And he isn't completely innocent either.
I feel like this is something I just can't handle, but at the same time not something so big to end the relationship. I'm at a loss.