BM using SS5 to subtly F with me and it's making me feel crazy.
I've generally gotten along with and bonded pretty closely with SS5. I've known him since he was 2 and he's almost 6.There's always been moments of when I felt annoyed but I would say something and he would cut it out. And it never affected our relationshp. But recently.... I've been so irritable and short he's beginning to distance himself from me. It kind of stings... but then it also fuels my annoyance.
BM is a freaking C-U-Next-Tuesday. She's emotionally abusive to her own kid and I'm picking up on some of the more subtle things she's doing to try and put SS5 in the middle. For example.... I've been wanting to get a cat for a long time. This isolation has really propelled that want, plus one of the cats I used to have back when I lived on the mainland just passed away last week. BF said to SS5 weeks ago that we're going to get a kitten, and he was stoked. Super excited. Because he's always liked cats. After that, the kid has been coming over with mean comments about cats. A week after we told him, he said "dogs are way better than cats." Saturday he said "cats are the worst." Then he said "my mommy's allergic to cats." I snapped when BF wasn't in the room and kid says "So, my mommy's going to get a dog" in the most smug way a 5-year-old can be. I spun around and said "LISTEN. This is NOT a contest. Stop comparing me to your mom. Just STOP. Your mom doesn't live here. She lives somewhere else. So she can do what she wants there. And we can do what we want here."
Kid was silent for a few minutes. Then came up and said he loves me. I think this is some kind of response mechanism he's learned from the weird ass people in his life. But yeah. He hasn't been as warm to me as before and I guess I don't blame him.
I have another example of how SS5 has been asking about me and BF getting married in front of BM. I'll put that in another post bc this is already too long.