1st SS summer update
Things have been interesting to say the least.
DH's schedule sucks right now. He works from 5am-4pm Mon-Fri. Then every 4th day (including weekends) he has a 24 hr shift. So for example if his 24 hr shift is on Tuesday, he will leave at 4am Tuesday and not get home until around 5pm Wed.
This was not going on when we booked the tickets and it will be going on all summer so we couldn't have just pushed things back. Not taking summer was not an option and he isn't allowed any leave time due to the travel bans and current workload. We just have to deal with it.
SS15 likes to stay up all night apparently slamming doors, running up and down stairs, stiring up BS14. I have flipped out on him every night except last night- he didn't bother me last night, he either got the clue or my double Xanex took care of it. Not sure which. When I say flipped out- I mean, In his face, yelling at him to get in his F'ing bed NOW. Usually around 2 am when I have to be up at 5 and DH at 4.
Staying up all night means he wants to sleep all day. DH had both Sat. and Sun off- we couldn't get him up until after noon both days and he just whined about being tired and wouldn't give an answer on doing anything. So, I made plans- we went go-carting and putt-putt one day and paddle boarding the next. He barely stayed awake for dinner. I snapped again last night and told him that I didn't care if he was awake while we were at work but he sure as hell was going to be present for the days his father had off.
DH thanked me after that when we were in private. He said he wanted to say that to him all weekend but just isn't sure how or what to say. I told him that I had no problem doing it, just let me know if I over step and I will back right off- throw me a gangster sign or something LOL
My kids did a mini-father's day for DH since they leave on Wed. It was nice. SS still hasn't mentioned wanting to get anything for him and I am not offering. SS20's stuff is in and he asked me if I could find a card for him next time I go to the store- he said please make it sarcastic like me. (LOL! If y'all only knew- he has been "working" on his sarcasm lately and keeps asking if we understand it! If you watched Big Bang Theory it is even worse than when Sheldon was learning sarcasm!)
I am in this weird place of kind of looking forward to my kids leaving so I can stop pretending to care what we are doing as a family and really sad that they are going... So, don't mind me and my pitty party over here.
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I am sorry to hear it is
not going super well with SS visiting, especially all the late night shennigans when you have to get up early. At least, it sounds better than it could be going based on past events. I was wondering how it was going!
I can't imagine the work schedule, that sounds awful. Hopefully after your statement he at least tries on DH's days off.
I hope it gets better for you and that your kids have a fun time visiting their dad this summer!
He's used to life without any
He's used to life without any rules at BM's house. I know that was part of why SS20 PAS'd out - no rules at BM's.
I don't think many could
I don't think many could blame you for going off on him. That is ridiculous behavior at any time of day, and it's unnacceptable at 2 a.m. I'd watch out for other passive aggressive bullshit.
Oh, I have gone off on skids
Oh, I have gone off on skids for late night / early morning noise with zero regret. Sorry - I get up early (5:30 at the time) and you are NOT going to interrupt my sleep just because it's summer for you.
It's just crazy to me. My
It's just crazy to me. My BS14 will stay up late but he is quiet on his computer in the game room. He will slip up to bed and sleep in but he isn't disrupting anyone elses life and he also will wake up when told to do so.
SS just wants a free for all of rude and entitled behavior that I have no tolerance for and won't stand for it in my house.
Wow what a little sh*t. Do
Wow what a little sh*t. Do you think he's doing this intentionally? Or that he's just that oblivious he thinks his behavior is okay? I hope when your DH has time he gets to have a come to Jesus talk with the kid, hopefully it does some good.
I was wondering if he was
I was wondering if he was doing it to get a reaction... and that he is somehow recording you cussing him.. or yelling etc..
all to be used by mom to nix all future visits..
DH should go off on him. Not
DH should go off on him. Not you. My ex allowed exYSD make noises all night keeping me up. Me telling her didn't work. I only survived a year of it. I was out. I don't tolerate noise at night. Speak to your DH about putting a stop to it.
you going off on him is going to feed the same bogus story about drunken SM losing all control
You shouldn't be 'going off'
You shouldn't be 'going off' on him. Cut the power at a decent time and he'll have nothing to do but go to bed which would also mean he would sleep normal hours. He won't change until you make him and yelling at him only makes you the nagging evil stepmom.
Orbi routers can turn off
Orbi routers can turn off internet to only certain devices at a time you set. I'm sure there are others like that too.