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Not a skid weekend yet I need to vent. Bitch now thinks she can question what MY kids do!!!!!!

justanothergurlNJ's picture

WARNING FOUL LANGUAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This fucking controlling skanky bitch thinks she has the right to question what SO and I do with MY KIDS. Maybe I am over reacting but I don't think so. So here it goes.

I was busy all weekend with DD and competition cheer, my ds recently got his driving permit and has been out driving in big parking lots for a few weeks now. Cheer takes up a lot of my time, especially prime daytime driving hours.

Sunday I was gone ALL day with cheering. Ds asked SO Sunday morning if he would take him out driving. I said to SO the roads are icy, do you think it is a good idea. SO says yea what better way to learn how to drive in bad weather then to do it, everyday isn't going to be sunny and bright. SO is right, and they were going to be in a big empty parking lot with NOTING close to hit. I tell So yea good point be careful and be patient, SO has never taken ds out driving.

I go on my way, while at cheering a few hours later I got text after text from DS about how good he did, SO actually took him out on the street they were out for a few hours, the kid was over the moon and so was SO. He felt proud and accomplished and obviously more confidence in DS skills them me. I'm a nervous Nelly and not by nature but driving lessons have been nerve racking.

So I get home and SO and I are talking more about the driving and he mentions the SKID MARKS 7&10 called while he was out driving with ds, so he tells them let me call you guys back I need to pay attention to ds. Well because the phone is ALWAYS required to be a speaker, BM pipes in with do you think it's a good idea on a day like today............. :jawdrop: :jawdrop: I lost my fucking shit, and told SO who the fuck does she think she is, last time I checked I BIRTHED THAT BOY, I PAY HIS WAY, I SUPPORT HIM. Now you think you have a say or opinion on why I DO WITH MY CHILD OHHHH FUCK NO! So I say to SO did you tell her it isn't her concern, he isn't her child? No I told her what better way to learn to drive in bad weather then to do it. WTF....so you explained your actions to your FUCKING EX ABOUT MY CHILD, MY SON, ARE YOU FUCKING OUT OF YOUR MIND. We have had conversation after conversation about shutting down ANY inquiry about me, my kids, my money, my life. I don't give a fuck if she asked what fucking color socks I am wearing not your fucking business. I am pissed that she had the balls to even ask, but I am LIVID he felt the need to explain to her why he was driving with MY KID.

Now I understand not every parent will agree with SO and I's decision to take DS out yesterday, and My mom did ask if it was a good idea, but it is MY MOM. NOT PRINCESS GOLDEN UTERUS!!!! SO brushed it off like it was no big deal and maybe to most it isn't but it was to me so I felt I deserved some respect on the matter. I discussed this with SO again this morning and reminded him for 2000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 time MY KIDS, MY MONEY, MY LIFE, MY HOME NEVER EVER GET EXPLAINED OR DISCUSSED TO BM.

Will he ever get it I don't know.

ETA: DD team took 1st place both days in their division. I am so proud of her, she a flyer and has worked really hard on her stunts.

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misSTEP's picture

I totally get why you are upset. It is a boundaries thing. Guys tend to not get it as easily or they pretend to not understand what the big deal is.

justanothergurlNJ's picture

He told the skids he couldn't talk because he was driving hit DS, but BM ALWAYS requires the phone to be on speaker so when she heard that she decided to chime and that's when he decided to defend himself.

justanothergurlNJ's picture

I would have been satisfied if he just ignored her question and just proceeded to get off the phone with the skids. BUT NO! and he calls it being secret, no there is no secret it's just not her business. I also got the excuse he didn't want to tell her to mind her own business because he didn't want to say anything derogatory in front of the skids :jawdrop: :jawdrop: she trashed you up and down in front of them and you don't want to tell her to mind her business, I am livid just livid and won't get over this anytime soon and with skids coming this weekend it is going to make it worse.

My patience is wearing thin I am about to get a hold of her and just let lose, but she hides from me. Always with her parents or hiding behind her kids. I really don't want to do it in front of the skids but she is leaving me no choice.

justanothergurlNJ's picture

It's been an on going thing and SO doesn't do it intentionally, and yes BM was just making small talk, which pissed me off too, because last weekend they had a blow out like they do EVERY weekend SO has the skids, BM gest a stick up her tight fat ass and doesn't care to talk with SO until it suites her and my STUPID SO refuses to get off her roller coaster ride.

We have had this talk again and again, SO is a talker and doesn't understand why I get annoyed.

Tuff Noogies's picture

"SO is a talker" OMG mine too!!! thankfully nothing about me, but sometimes i just look at him like "why the fuck are u telling her that?" - usually to mil or dumbass' mom. and he knows it too, sometimes he'll get off the phone and say "i said too much about x,y,z didnt i..."

he just cant help himself, he opens his mouth and that shit just comes out. ugh!

justanothergurlNJ's picture

It drives me fucking crazy. I'm very private i don't like people knowing my business, especially BM. He still doesn't get you are NOT friends.

Unfreakingreal's picture

Completely understand. BM once had the nerve to tell Dh that if my BS17 could go to football camp then HER DD14 should be able to go to modeling school. I ripped her a new one. Made sure I told her that any activities BS attended were on MY dime and not on DH's and that SHE gets a fat CS check which she can feel free to use on whatever she wishes. I also told her that the next time she's begging for handouts she should keep my sons name out of her monkey mouth.

justanothergurlNJ's picture

I just do not understand where these bitches get off?

How are you? Enjoying the Jersey weather? How's your son and that g-baby doing?

Unfreakingreal's picture

Justanothergurl - I attempted a Costco run yesterday at 9am. Got 2 blocks away when I noticed the line of cars skidding in the middle of the street and cracked a U-turn & came back home. Yesterday was scary. The black ice cause almost 500 accidents in the good ole state of NJ.
GB is adorable, thanks for asking, but she has mild pneumonia. Gets nebulizer treatments daily to help her breathe. Very upsetting.

justanothergurlNJ's picture

Yes it was bad, I had cheering with DD but I was lucky it was only 1 town over.

Hope the baby is feeling better and I am hoping the Drama is at a minimum.

Unfreakingreal's picture

Ipeed - Yup. She truly had the nerve to say that AND she told SD14 that as well. So of course, SD was all in a hissy because she felt that it wasn't FAIR that BS got to pursue HIS dreams and she couldn't. Mind you, she's not model material. It was one of those "pay us 3k and we'll get your kid a modeling contract" scams.

justanothergurlNJ's picture

Thank You they have been working VERY hard on this routine since October.

It's exhausting to have remind him to keep his big fat trap shut, or at least keep me and my business out of it.

hangingbyathread6's picture

The BM in our case has gone after my kids also, or what we are doing with my kids, or what my kids have received for birthday gifts, etc. HELL NO...MY kids are NONE OF HER DAMN BUSINESS!!! And I too have had to have that convo with DH that he is NOT to utter one word regarding MY kids or MY family to that bitch...or there will be hell to pay and he will not like it.

That woman has no say what goes on in our home with the kids/skids but she sure as hell has no say in what goes on with MY kids independently!! I HATE those kind of BM's!!! And I am a BM...but exH's home is his home what he does is his decision, I don't even tell him what to do with our kids so I sure as hell am not listening to the fat bitch of an exW my hubby has.

Evil stepmonster's picture

No I don't think you're over reacting at all. He handled it wrong I would agree. I want the BM's I deal with to know absolutely nothing about us. It's just non of their damn Business!!