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Did I hear what I think I heard?

onebright1's picture

This morning, We (SO me SD13 and Stwins9) have to rush out to get stwins to fball game to cheer at and 13 to a girl scout leaders house for drop off. I follow in my car to fball game while all the rest are in his car, plan is to drop off 9s at game, leave me with them and then he takes 13 to her drop off place. I stand at the game for the next hour and a half while SO runs 13 to FILs house cuz she needs something she forgot there(i'd have said tuff shit) and then to her scout place, and he makes it back just as the game ends. He Parks and walks in and stands back with 2 men yakking. I have been here for over an hour and tried to talk to a couple parents but they ended up walking away. Im pretty sure when Nutburger BM said she trashed me all over school she meant it Sad anyway I overhear one of the guys he is talking to say "you have 5 girls and a dog".
Now whenever I am asked about kids I say WE have 7 and one grown and out. One of the parents there asked if I had any there playing and I said, WE had 2 there cheering.
So Next time, Im just going to say NOPE, MINE is at basketball practice with HER dad Im just here as a sitter til THEIR dad gets back. If there is a next time.
So once again, I was just put in my place as Nanny? Babysitter? Chaffeur?
And yes I called him out on it and he says I missed part of the conversation.
fine. but I didnt hear you correct the guy about any more kids. Omitting is the same as denying.
Its no wonder we cant blend, HE wont have it!

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Great Mom but horrified Stepmom's picture

I dunno. I guess I'm in the minority here but I always say we 'each have one, he has a daughter and I have a son". I don't think there is any point in forcing the blending issue.

Sorry. I know this isn't what you want to hear but I really feel this way. It makes life a lot easier and it takes the pressure off of EVERYONE in the family to 'pretend' to be one when the reality is we are two parents who each have a child from a previous marriage. The kids don't think of themselves as siblings. They are nice to each other but that's it.

onebright1's picture

I would have been fine with that too. But my point is he acted as though we (me and my bd8) who live with him and skids, didnt exist.
He just let the guy believe it was him and his 5 girls.........

onebright1's picture

Yes! So you can see who gave up more here in this relationship yet he cant even acknowledge my 1??? Im just disappointed right now. I will get over it. I always do Sad Its like he wants to be seen as some kinda superdad doing it all on his own. When in reality. He mostly just drives sgirls here and there. Doesnt actually DO anything with them. Like I said, he is there when it (whatever it is that day) starts and ends, but not inbetween, and I am standing there like a dinosaur in a daisy patch during the in between.

onebright1's picture

Thats cuz you have 5 Wink kidding , I know what you meant. I guess I am in hyper hormonal land today and that is good to know. One of the reasons I blog here before I discuss with SO. Because later he will want to discuss what was wrong with me today and now I can say, "I was having a rose colored glasses moment, but I am back on earth now"
Thanks you guys. Sideways hugs to ya'all for your help.

not.the.crazy.one's picture

I used to say 'all together we have 4'. But not anymore. I just tell people I have two. If the skids are around and someone asks, I'll say they're my steps, but only if asked or if someone assumes they're mine.