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It's been a while..... VENT this could be LONG! .and a bit of a F off to Facetime ......Time to implement a new strategy.

justanothergurlNJ's picture

Hello ladies and Gents. It's been a while and for that I apologize. Between work, skids, kids and well life I find it very hard to post a lot. I read every day on my down time, but I don't always have time to post and after skid weekends I am completely exhausted and over whelmed and I wouldn't know where to even begin.

Facetime continues to be an issue. I had my dd sneak on the iPads and delete our wifi, and OSS snuck into my sons room and hijacked the password off the modem when he wasn't home. SS now locks his door when he leaves,he has gone through MY personal papers to find the sticky note the PW was written on, he has picked up other networks in my area that are not PW protected. All of this to Facetime MOMMMMMMMY. Here is the link to my original blog http://www.steptalk.org/node/198621.

SO has addressed this time and time again with OSS and BM. BM just keeps insisting we allow him wifi. She even had the balls to text SO before pickup this weekend. " Please allow OSS wifi access, it should pop up on the iPad. Are you changing your PW weekly". I just about seen RED when I read this message. First off you fucking broke ass bitch you don't pay my bills, you can't even pay your own, second this is MY fucking house YOU DO NOT make the rules. But I let SO address it yet again, part of "not my monkeys not my circus, NOT MY CLOWN" At pick up he once again told BM NO WIFI NO FACETIME. This is an intrusion of MY time with the boys, it is an invasion of my privacy. I DO NOT enter your house in any way I DO NOT want you in mine. BM just went on and on about what do you have to hide. SO once again tried to explain to her nothing, but it does not mean I want your presence in my house. This is just another way of her trying to control the situation.

I was sitting on the couch Sunday folding laundry and OSS IPad was right next to me, I heard it ding and a message from BM pops up "Hi Babe what time do you and your brother want to be picked up" I fucking lost my shit!!! Again this child has managed to get on MY WIFI, second, why is his mother asking what time he wants to be picked up there is already an established pick up time. I marched my ass outside, pulled SO to the side and again told him OSS has once again found a way to get on our wifi. SO lost his shit about the text message, confronted OSS and OSS denied being on it lied and said he didn't know how he connected. Now he is looking at the ipad saying see it's not here. I said NO IT IS NOT BECAUSE I DELETED IT!!!!. SO walked in the other room to talk in private and when he came out he went looking for OSS only to find him in my DD's closet hiding with the ipad once again trying to connect. He was LIVID.

Please don't say turn it off, it is not an option in my eyes as I have older children that utilize it for school and pleasure. It is not fair for them to suffer in THEIR home.

Now EVERY time the boys are picked up, within 20 minutes the blizzard of text messages from swamp cunt start. EVERY.SINGLE.WEEKEND. We have them she finds something to complain about and sends message after mesaage or call after call. Last time she claimed our cat pissed in their bag, which is not true. I clean the cat litter I know what cat piss smells like, I would've smelled it. The time before that the button on the xbox controller is sticking. It is always something and usually very insignificant. This week she amped it up and accused SO of telling the boys she was drunk. According to SO the boys were asking questions about drinking, asked if Mom ever got drunk, if justanothergurl, grandma, ect. This is fueled by SO Mom recently getting a DUI and SO's past issues with alcohol. BM is no angel and he said your Snow white act is getting very old. And then PAGES of text messages rolled in one after the other SO could barely finished one response before MORE blabbering came in. SO tried to be direct, on point and ended EVERY fucking message with are you done yet Goodnight! But they kept coming. The insults, the belittle, the BS. SO went as far as to tell her look if your bored because your man is home with his wife take that up with him. I am done with this conversation. I would like to spend time with my wife and unlike have to get up and go to work in the morning. Now yes SO was wrong and fed into this BS and fired back, he tried being civil and to the point but as time went on he slung his dirt. As we laughed at her pathetic-ness it got old and tiring. She finally ended her cheap novel with this gem "I will be getting OSS an Iphone so I can contact my son whenever I want" do not take it away from him." Now I'm done. SO answered back with ok but I still do NOT want facetime in my house. I do NOT enter your house and I do NOT want you in mine. Now unless there is a school or medical emergency or a change in scheduling you have no reason to contact me for the next 2 weeks. I will call my sons during the week. GOOD NIGHT.(side not.SO always calls the land line)

Please keep in mind we have never tried to cut off communication with her. He has access to the land line if he wishes to call the swamp cunt.

All that being said for as much entertainment we got from her text message and telling her to go away in many different ways has not worked. SO has agreed that unless it is an emergency or a change in scheduling all text messages will be IGNORED. I will admit I have encouraged SO to go back at her and spew his venom I've kept telling him to grow a pair and tell her off and he has many times and she still doesn't get it so now I am changing the strategy and hoping if we ignore the crazy it will go away.

That's all folks. WOW I needed to get that out.

How did I get here, why do I stay is love really wroth all this.

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Ninji's picture

BM got SKids tablets for Christmas. As soon as I heard, they were both told if they bring them to our house, they will be taken as soon as they hit the door and won't see them again until they go home. If they bring them a second time, they lose them for a month. But our problem isn't with them contacting BM. She has never contacted them even when we keep them for weeks at a time. Our problem is tooooo much video games.

If I were you, the iPad would be taken away immediately. Also, when you SO took the OSS home because of his behavior, he should have been put to bed for the night or some similar punishment.

justanothergurlNJ's picture

I really can't I have older kids and will not make them be put out by a shitty, spoiled, rude 10 year old.

justanothergurlNJ's picture

BM picked him up to bring him home and she condones this, she is all for facetime.

See BM thinks she threaten us with I called my attorney when she doesnt get her way, she tried that shit Saturday night at 10:30 at night saying she spoke with her attorney regarding another issues. PLEASE, you ain't Kim K you are NOT reaching attorney at 10:30 unless your fucking him.

So I am sure SO will get a text message saying her attorney says we have to allow face time or he is filing some BS motion.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

I would think any attorney worth his salt would laugh her arse out of his office. Her texts are, IMHO, bordering on harassment. There is a landline in your home. She could talk to her pwecious wittle darling at a specific time for a specific length of time every single night.

My ex and I went through this with HIS ex. She was calling his cell, my cell, his work, and our landline. We went to an attorney. The attorney wrote her a nice, legal letter telling her that if this BS continued, we would file a restraining order and that, henceforth, all communication had to be solely to my ex's cell phone or his email. If she contacted me, I would file a RO. If she called his work, he would file a RO.

Would/could a judge FORCE you to have Facetime in your home? I highly doubt it.

fakemommy's picture

You need to go to your wifi IP address online and block the ipad from being able to connect to your wifi. Look up how to do this by your modem brand, I don't know how to do it specifically, but my DH did it when our neighbor somehow was using our internet.

justanothergurlNJ's picture

Yup pretty much what I told SO. She can call her attorney and drag us back to court, NO judge in hos right mind is going to tell me I HAVE TO let a 10 year old Facetime with his MOMMMMYYYYY. We have a land line that both OSS and BM have access to. DONE DEAL!

Anna21's picture

Sorry to disagree but we confiscated SD'S phone a few weeks ago for calling us foul names and BM called the sheriff's office with a stolen phone report! We both got called at work by the police and a "friendly threat" to return the phone which we had to do. So messed up, even when FDH explained the situation the cops said we would have to confiscate something that we purchased. This is in Florida, so messed up. BM was validated in her craziness.

justanothergurlNJ's picture

Why not put the Ipad away when it's a skid weekend
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That just won't work, the kid will cry, bitch and moan and make us all miserable. I don't mind the Ipad it's the facetime.

As far as the phone, SIGH. If he is caught on facetime then "I" will take it away and let BM call the police. I will deal with it, but I will not have her surveillance system in MY home.

To tell the truth ladies, I have remained put of this for far to long, maybe it is time I get a hold of her and put her in her place face to face. Her BS is upsetting my HAPPY HOME

Ninji's picture

Who cares if he bitches. It's called parenting. If he starts complaining, he gets a punishment each and every time.

justanothergurlNJ's picture

It's not me, I don't care if the kids cries the whole entire weekend, it;s SO who is afraid he will not want to come. TO that I say GOOD FUCKING RIDDANCE. Just get YSS and we can all enjoy our weekend for a change,

justanothergurlNJ's picture

IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE, this is the new game plan with BM. He thinks he makes the rules because at BM's he DOES> Well guess what fucker this ain't your mommas house it MINE!.