Well this is probably about to blow up part 4
As some of you predicted, last second the inlaws supposedly both have to work and can't go to YDS first birthday. Instead, they wanted to come up - wait for it - a few days later when SD would be there. And when they would normally have the bday party that MIL insists on throwing SD every year (4th of july weekend).
I told DH to tell them we cant that day, and offered another (SD free) day. They pushed back on it a little and eventually ran out of excuses and are supposedly coming up for supper in 2 weeks. We'll see I guess. I'm betting that will get cancelled too. Hopefully.
DH at first got angry at me for not just catering to them and claimed hes being told to "cut off his whole family." Um, we invited them to the party, and offered to alternative dates they can come up. If it cant only ever be on their terms, then they're cutting themselves off.