Ot - toxic mothers
I've seen this as a topic brought up in a few posts lately, about toxic mothers/mother in laws being a common theme for people on this board. I've wondered alot as a teen/adult if I have one myself, but since it's my own mother and the only one I've ever had it's hard to judge myself. I can clearly see that MIL is since I'm looking at it from the outside. I suspect my own mother is somewhat toxic also and have a few people say things that indicate they thought the same also. Shes not the worst, but then I normally feel somewhat misunderstood/worse after talking to her and have trouble being around her for very long without getting annoyed. Just curious what your relationships with your parents were like and do you think their relationship with you is part of what led you to some of the dysfunctional step family dynamics seen here?
Side note: My parents own a disney timeshare thing and I've gone there most years since I was little. We've also gone alot with her since ODS was young. But it was different at the time because I was a really young parent and single. Now that I'm married and have my own family we want to go on our own (paying our own way not using her timeshare) sometimes. How do I explain that we want to go on trips on our own sometimes to there? I've tried bringing up that she could bring just my brother and his kid sometimes or she could go with just her boyfriend but she didnt seem to take the hint.