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MIL is so petty but it makes me laugh

Jcksjj's picture

MIL is a social media wh*re. Loves using it to get attention and promoting the favorites of the grandchildren. Lots of passive aggressive posts when shes mad and poor me posts also. She posts tons and tons of pictures of SD and very rarely posts any of any of our other kids unless they're major attention getting ones - so birth announcements or that type of thing that normally get alot of likes, but yet she had the nerve to chew out DH (who rarely uses social media) for not putting enough pictures up of SD and too many of the other kids. I went through his Facebook and counted - there was I think 6 of each kid. So exactly the same. I find this all kind of hilarious because I think she looks like an idiot acting like this. 

When I post pictures of the kids she will go through each individual picture so she can make sure to love/comment on each picture of the grandkids that are bios and ignore any pictures of ODS that are in the mix. Sometimes she will go on FILs account and do the same thing with his also. Well SIL is now dating a man with a daughter and posted pictures from a photoshoot she did (SIL does photography) of both her daughters and his daughter. Surprise, she did the same thing and went through the album complimenting every single picture of SILs kids and nothing on the other little girls pictures. So weird - what 63 year old woman acts like that? I made sure to compliment all of the kids' pictures even though I normally just scroll through without commenting at all. I hope MIL sees it and is deeply offended by someone acting as though the "other" kid is equal to her relatives. Even the non favorite grandkids are better than any outsiders, right?

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momjeans's picture

It IS comical, isn’t it?

This is *exactly* how my 70-something FIL is on Facebook. All day, every day.

He is king turd of sh*tposting mountain.

In person he brags about that retired life, but in reality his days are spent on the Internet, teetering back and forth between posting mind-numbing evangelical memes, you-better-worship-your-parents-and-all-the-sacrifices-they-make-for-you memes, and passive aggressive “I don’t hate you, I’m just gifting you my absence” memes (spoiler alert: he DOESN’T gift me his absence) - and taking naps.

My MIL is queen of cherrypicking which photos she “hearts” according to whether skid is in it or not, and publicly polishing my turd of a drunk BIL.

They’re insufferable. I grew tired of my MIL’s attention seeking behavior real fast and unfriended her YEARS ago. She has tried to friend me numerous times and I always immediately deny her requests. 

Jcksjj's picture

Oh I love when she posts memes that are obviously aimed at someone else but perfectly describe herself. She likes to be passive aggressive in person too - she used to constantly make comments about DHs dog and how he shouldn't have gotten her because she sheds so much and is always jumping up on people (in all honesty she was right and DH didnt realize how high maintenance of a dog it was since he never had pets before). SIL said she wanted to take the dog when she was at our house once and I jokingly said she could have her. MIL gasped and starts going oh that poor dog and now every time she is here makes comments about how sad the dog looks and how bad she feels for her (for instance because she was sitting on the other side of the baby gate from us at one point) even though she hated the dog before that.

momjeans's picture

You should tell your MIL to pick a lane with how she feels about the dog and to stay in it. 

LOL.

DHsfamilyfromhell's picture

We have the same mother in law..... well almost mine is eighty plus. I rarely look anymore. Pictures of her burn my eyeballs.

DHsfamilyfromhell's picture

We have the same mother in law..... well almost mine is eighty plus. I rarely look anymore. Pictures of her burn my eyeballs.

NotSoStepStepmom's picture

Eww! She sounds like a miserable loser like my DH’s mother (I refuse to call her “my MIL” - she isn’t “my” anything). She is a bitter, hateful monster who happens to be a severe alcoholic, which makes things a million times worse! My DH cut her out of our lives over three years ago due to her complete dysfunction and obsession with starting drama. Thank God.

You definitely aren’t alone! But I’m sorry that you have to deal with all of that pettiness. People suck sometimes.

Jcksjj's picture

Oh man. Mine doesnt even have any substance abuse issues, shes just naturally crazy. Bitter would definitely be the word to describe her. She hates anyone that comes into her life that is an outsider because she cant control them like she can her own family and she feels that everyone is taking her kids that she feels owe her their entire lives away from her. She would have been much happier if they had all lived in her basement until she died 

Jcksjj's picture

Lol well not as far as I'm aware of, but then I dont think I've ever heard her age brought up at all.

NotSoStepStepmom's picture

My DH’s mother is naturally crazy, too. She is supposed to be on medication for bi-polar disorder. She is the same as your MIL in that she wants to control everyone. Once my DH stopped living the life she thought he should have (living at home in his late twenties, drinking with her every day, smoking cigarettes all day with his grandfather, not working or being able to keep a job, etc.) then he became the enemy. She is a complete and utter WHACK JOB!

Jcksjj's picture

Yep its backwards behavior than what you'd expect from a mother. Instead of being happy for them and proud that they've grown up and made a good life for themselves they're angry and jealous. Willing to sabotage their kids to make themselves happy.

NotSoStepStepmom's picture

YES!!! Why the Hell is that? I will never understand it. It’s absolutely appalling.

thinkthrice's picture

when we were married she gave me a "gift" of exH#1's fav recipes!  She was extremely meddling all.the.time and always pretended that DD was HER daughter (she had four sons)

Jcksjj's picture

Oh yes, she wants to be mommy to SD. I'm pretty sure that's why shes the favorite. She knows she cant even pretend to with the other grandkids because the actual moms wouldnt allow her that much control.

Ispofacto's picture

Just unfriend and block her.  You don't need that negativity in your life.  It's funny until it's not funny and then you will be sorry you exposed yourself for too long.

 

 

Jcksjj's picture

Hmm well you might have a point in that it wont be amusing to me anymore when the kids are older and can see it on there. It doesnt affect me much when it's only me personally but I've already completely written her off for how shes acted towards ODS in person. She knows that and tries to suck up to me sometimes regarding him now when we see her, but its completely see through and shes already shown her true colors in that area so too bad. And as soon as she thinks she can get away a little bit with showing the blatant favoritism towards SD shes at it again.

Jcksjj's picture

Lol that's normally all I do post. I'm not a huge social media person in general so it's not all that often though.