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JBDmom's picture

It took a while 3 days of me being before everything blew up as I expected. Of course SD is the cause of it all. I took my son to his first doctors appointment today so my SO aunt watched the girls for me while I went. She kept SD5 for the entire day because she was playing with all the kids over at her house. Which is completely fine I’m glad she gets to play with other kids on top of having one less child to deal with. Anyways she comes home at dinner time crying already because she had to come home. I should’ve known the second she walked through the door crying that she was going to completely ruin my night. She gets home and is arguing with everything we say to her, talking over us while we’re trying to talk to each other, running around the house, being rude to us. SO is basically ignoring it so I’m trying my best to not get pissed off. Well he decides to mow the grass which is not a problem and SD wants to be up his butt so she wants to go play on the porch which is also not a problem. While they’re both outside I’m feeding my 1 year old and getting ready to feed my son. My 1 year old is getting grouchy because she’s tired so I’m trying to hurry and feed her so I can feed my son and lay her down. As I’m in the middle of all this SD comes inside crying because she dropped her shoe off the porch. No big deal I tell her she can still play on the porch but I can’t get her shoe for her right now because I’m busy. She doesn’t like that at all. Immediately she starts screaming and crying about her shoe and as I’m trying to explain to her she can still play on the porch she starts arguing with me telling me I need to go get her shoe. Dude I’m not gonnna put up with this ridiculous attitude. I tell her she needs to stop throwing a fit or she can go to her room. Does she listen? F@ck no. She continues arguing and at this point screaming at me. I send her to her room. This girl has the biggest meltdown I’ve ever seen. She’s screaming at the literal top of her lungs for her dad and crying. As this starts happening my already grouchy 1 year old decides it’s time to scream too. Both of these girls are screaming. I go to SD room and tell her she can either stop screaming or she can clean her room. Immediately she starts arguing with me. Ok then clean your room. She’s still screaming but now I’m laying my 1 year old down to go to sleep. After finally getting her in bed and calmed downs SD is still screaming and I’ve had enough. I give her 1 more chance to calm down before I just make her go to bed. Again does she listen? No of course not. Boom light out. I’m done at this point. I’m in tears because her and my daughter are stressing me out. I make my SO come inside and talk to her because she won’t for the life of her quit screaming at the top of her lungs. He ends up arguing with her and she weasels her way out of trouble like always. Seriously I’m so over it. 

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ntm's picture

You gotta come down hard immediately, not build up to it. She’s screaming? Boom, she’s in bed, lights out. No conversations with her about it while she’s in meltdown mode. She needs to regain her self-regulation before there’s any attempt to talk to her. Sorry for your bad night when you should be enjoying your new baby. 

justmakingthebest's picture

I agree with both above. Tossed her butt outside and tell her dad to deal with her or immediately to bed. 

New baby, 1 yr old and and acting out 5 yr old that you cant even really discipline is way too much!! Your SO needs to be 100% checked in and helping you until her behavior is under control. 

Harry's picture

Have him handle his DD.  That why she at your home. For her BF to handle her

thinkthrice's picture

the good ol' days:

Father says: "stop crying or i will give you something to cry ABOUT!!"

Followed by a good spanking

wash rinse repeat until she stops the screaming and crying over nothing.

Of course in this day and age of zero common sense and child centrivism (to the detriment of the child/future adult) the BM will call CPS on you and SD will be PASed out.

wink, wink.

JBDmom's picture

I was always told this growing up and honestly parents today need to stop trying to be best friends with their kids before being their parent. 

tog redux's picture

Love how he goes to mow the lawn while his partner is wrangling 3 small kids after just giving birth, right?

He’s a gem, this one. 

bananaseedo's picture

Good heavens, let the damn grass get long, hire it out this once or have him wait until you are all settled a bit more.  What the hell is he thinking?

 

susanm's picture

Unless there are gnomes making a village in the middle of the yard, it can wait.  There are also plenty of kids off of school who will do the yard for you.  Money well spent.  Sorry, dad.  No escaping the "domestic bliss" of dinner and bed time routines to go do lawn duty.  LOL

advice.only2's picture

Has your DH taken SD to the doctor to get tested for spoilebratitis? He might want to get that checked out, if it comes out she does have this dreaded malady he might want to consider some sort of treatment for it.