Sil finally arrested and shit hitting the fan...
So they finally picked up sil on her 14 felonies last night. Immediately my dh starts getting calls from mil. We talked about him not calling her back-however she continued to call into today so he finally calls her back about an hour ago. She was angry with HIM! She told him he should have paid the bills she ran up and kept his mouth shut? Then she hung up on him. WTF is wrong with these people? The arresting police officer also called dh this morning. He basically said that sil was running her mouth the whole entire time blaming everything on dh. Again, WTF? The woman deliberately opened two different credit card accounts in his name and then made 12 separate charges on them. And that is his fault? He only filed the police report because that is what the credit card companies told him he had to do in order to clear his credit. He never even told the police that -Hey, it was my sister-they investigated themselves and it was very obvious that it was her.
So so sad. But it does really give me insight into the cycle of messed up in that family. My dh had told the police officer that his mother was mad at him, and even the police officer was able to state "Well, if anything it is HER fault to for raising her like this and allowing her to get away without consequences her whole life". ding ding ding. It also gives me alot insight into why dh used to do that with ss-it's what he knew, what he was raised with. Protect the wrongdoer, blame the victim.
Dh is pretty upset in general. It has been devasting enough for him to deal with his siblings stealing from him, his dad taking up for them-his mom was his final holdout. I think he thought she was at least somewhat sane and cared for him somewhat-now he realizes that he pretty much never will a relationship with his family of origin again.