In a marriage for the most part I think each of you are suppose to be there for each other for emotional support. But with Skids issues where you just come from two very different view points and you are now an outsider with his family and as a SM are not included any longer in get togethers and decisions etc. and every discussion over the issues with the Skids becomes heated and doesn’t resolve anything. I think it’s hard to emotionally support each other thru that! So I guess you just need to get emotional support for those type of issues elsewhere, friends, counseling, this site etc.? I know DH would like me to be more supportive of him and accepting of the situation with Skids but it’s hard to just pretend it’s all okay, but I’m trying. I am just struggling with how much to pretend and act like I am okay with it all and how to remain true to myself and figure out how to get my emotional support for these family/Skids issue separately from my marriage. I am struggling with how to try to accept the Skids issues as I am having a hard time supporting my husband and being “okay” with it all and thinking I just need to find the strength and emotional support elsewhere to cope with the Skids issues so I can try to be more okay with it all both for myself and for my husband. It feels tough to try to seperate this issue and keep it emotionally seperate from the rest of the marriage. I would welcome input on how you have coped or how I should try to cope emotionally and separately from the marriage so I don’t wreck the marriage but also take care of myself emotionally. Just feeling emotionally lost today and don’t know where to turn.