SO is now not even going to SD's 8th birthday party!
Ok, so in my other blog I mentioned that my daughter had gone to BM's house last year for SD7 birthday. I let her go with SO. He left her alone there to get the pizzas, even though I had specifically told him not to leave BM alone with my daughter. I dont trust the woman. Shes emotionally unstable, spiteful and has no problems with beating her children, ridiculing them and making nasty threats to frighten them (her daughter 7 was so badly affected by her that she was loosing weight through stress, her son aged 5 is nearly always frightend to go home incase he gets beaten)I didnt know just how unstable she was at the time though, even though I knew she wasnt right, I only now know the full extent. My daughter didnt have any complaints that day though, but I vowed never to let her go again, its just not worth the risk.
My daughter has been invited again this year, I have a legit excuse for her not to go as we'll be with my family for a mothers day weekend meal.
I hadnt asked SO if he wanted to come as it is his daughters birthday party and ofcourse, he always goes to the kids parties. He and BM had a fight over email last august because she told him that she wanted him to tell his son he was working and couldnt make it to his party. Even though SS was really excited about his dad coming.
So it was a real suprise to me when last night SO tells me he isnt going to SD's 8th birthday party. Her birthday is on a weds so he wont see her on the day either and will basically miss her birthday altogether. We have planned to do something the following weekend so my daughter could give her her gifts. But I am just really surprised and a little pissed off with SO. He made so much effort to make sure he was at SS party but is content to tell SD that hes working and basically cant be bothered to make the effort.
He freely admits that his son is his favourite. He says that BM wrecked his relationship with their daughter by underminding his parenting all the time. Its funny, SS looks just like SO and SD looks the spit of her mother (and posibley her mothers ex partner too...its hard to tell, I keep trying to find things about her that look like SO but am pretty much just being polite when I say I can see him in her)BM picks on SS ALOT but doesnt seem to be as harsh with SD (not hard to guess why).
It just makes me so angry that he behaves like this. We have agreed that when we move in together we will start doing birthdays seperate from BM, but he was meant to be going to this party for his daughter. Now hes just quit a few days before. That is not right. Its not fair on her either, and also he said that if my daughter was going, he would go, but as shes not, he wont!! He then tried to tell me that he doesnt even think he was invited in the first place!!
BM saying "Its (SD's) party at this time, on this date. Oh and (my daughter) is also invited" sounds like an invite for him to me!!!