What would you have done?
This is a bit closing of the stable door after the horse has bolted but I would value your opinions in case this happens again.
We get the skids stay over on weds nights. BM signed sd12 up to go and see a london show with school. She did not inform us and we only found out on sunday that sd12 would need collecting from school at 6.45pm on weds.
She usually finishes sch at 2.55pm. Her school is approx 10miles from our house.
I start work at 7pm and we only have one car at the moment.
OH txt BM on sunday to say that as she'd arranged it, she'd have to have the kids weds and pick Sd12 up from school. He said we'd swap it with monday, which also enabled me to take my 2 to the dentist at 5pm, when the skids are meant to be at BMs for 6pm..
She said "Im going into town and am not changing my plans with 2 days notice. It's your problem"
She also sent a load of abusive messages irrelevant to the issue...
In the end my mum and sister drove 30miles so my mum could baby sit the other 3 while my sister and OH could collect SD12.
It was a total palava, in fact I went to collect my mum, my sister drove here and took my mum back with her..
just so SD12 could go to the theatre and not miss her school trip.
Did we do the right thing? BM shouldn't have organised it behind our back and not told us, and I had to miss the dentist on monday because BM refused to swap days...
My relatives had to go out of their way to help out with OHs kids and BM thinks she has won by inconveniening everyone.
Did we do the right thing? Should we have just said no, you need to have the kids, or said SD12 can't go on the trip?
I don't know but it was so much more stressful than it needed to be...