Update SD and Group Home
Sd has been in the new group home now for almost 2 months. She has had a couple of behavioral issues while she has been there. She hasn't been kicked out yet, I am impressed.
She seems to like this home. I did find out that she does have either a tablet or a phone there and she uses it for internet connections. SD's sister helps SD steal BM's credit card to pay for it. I am not sure if she is allowed to have access to internet there or not. I am assuming NOT. I doubt the group home would want to be responsible for her actions on the internet. Trust, me...noone would want that kind of responsiblity. She doesn't do well with internet. She shouldn't have access to the internet at all, my opinion. She also is the oldest child there. She is 16 years old and the other kids are around 12. It scares me to death, she likes to touch other kids sexually. One of the reasons she will NEVER be allowed in my house. I can't take that chance with my BS. I just can not imagine a group home putting her with younger girls if they knew about it. I am sure it was one of those "small" things that BM probably didn't mention. I am not sure who to contact or I would call myself. The director just didn't seemed to care when I called. Sd is also a bully. These younger kids are a dream come true for SD.
To me, this group home is helping SD it is actually enabling her behaviors. She plays inappropriately online and she plays inappropriately with the younger kids. It is a win, win for SD.
She has had three counselors in less than 3 months. The home can not seemed to find a counselor who is willing to stay there more than a month or so at a time. To me, that is a very bad sign. She isn't getting the help that she needs. Since she likes being at the group home and will be there for until at least next summer, BM will not be contacting DH to come get SD because she is misbehaving. Every time she does that, I have to remind DH that he can go and get SD BUT she is NOT coming here.
The group home that she was in prior to this one was a locked down facility. BM and DH didn't like it but they did seemed to show SD that her actions have consequences whether good or bad.