Another Update
Background: See previous blogs
SD invited a boy over to BM's house to have sex. She then claims the boy raped her. This isn't the first time that SD has claimed rape. Since SD lies so much, it is hard to believe.
DH took SD to the detective a couple of days ago. SD asked that she talk to the him alone. She didn't want DH in the room with them. SD refused to give him her phone. They already have her computer and the boys phone. The investigator told DH that because she invited him back over again, it didn't look good for the "rape" charge but he would turn the evidence over to the DA. He was NOT going to issue a warrant for the boys arrest at this time. He told SD that if the boy threatens her or tries to contact her again to let him know and they will issue a warrant for his arrest.
SD called DH yesterday and she said she called the investigator because the boy was online posting things about the "rape and was telling everyone to contact her and call her names. She then told DH that the police have issued an arrest warrant for the boy. I am not sure if they were going to arrest him on the no contact or the "rape". The detective hasn't contacted DH or BM. I am not sure why the detective hasn't tried to contact the parents at all. I am not even sure if this is true or not. She may be lying to DH. DH and BM just seemed to let SD handle all of this herself. I started to tell DH that he needed to call the detective and find out more information but I decided to just disengage. BM has disengaged from it all now. BM is frustrated at SD for inviting the boy back over again not once but twice after the so called "rape" and had sex with him both times. BM has been disengaged from SD for a few years now. BM is really tired of all the drama from SD. She has tried her best to push SD on us for years but I have stood my ground. She isn't coming here.
SD also mentioned to DH that she has been in contact with one of the 1st guys who "raped" her when she was younger. Yes, she says she has been raped 3 or 4 times now. BM told DH about it when SD was around 8 or 9 and the boy was the same age. It seemed to me it was two young kids "playing dr" at that time and now it has become a "rape". I remember the conversation that BM had with him about it. It is hard for me to believe any of the allegations that she has made about any of these "rapes".
DH was very excited last night that the boy was arrested. I told him to keep in mind that he can post bail, be out in a few hours and he may be looking for revenge.
Edited to add: While DH and SD were at the police station, SD and the boy were exchanging text messages. I explained to DH that maybe someone needs to take SD's phone away for awhile. NOPE, can't do that. It is a bad idea. It would upset SD and push her over the edge. If SD doesn't get what she wants, she threatens suicide. She has been in the psych unit of the hospital multiple times.
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Just pop your popcorn and
Just pop your popcorn and enjoy the show. :) This will sort itself out, one way or another.
I haven’t been following this
I haven’t been following this saga, but it sounds consensual to me if they’re of age (to consent) and SD has been initiating physical contact with this person.
She sounds like a mess.
I believe it too
They are both 17
They’re both 17. Hmm. I’d say
They’re both 17. Hmm. I’d say your DH should try to find out what’s REALLY going on then, by contacting the authorities.
No more he said + did/she said + did, when it comes to SD and this boy.
Either she’s truly a victim and is scared of this guy and wants to stick to a No Contact order, or she’s a willing participant and is wasting law enforcements time and resources.
He will not get involved
Sd has asked him not to do so. He feels that it will push SD to suicide (that would be another LONG blog as to why he would believe that) if he pushes her.
I believe she is wasting everyone's time. I do not believe that she could get a conviction for rape, if she invited the boy back over twice after the so called rape and had consensual sex with him both times. She has been communicating with him since then.
If this goes to trial for rape, the defense attorney should ask for her phone. I feel there is a lot of missing information that could help the defense on her phone.
I would be shocked if this
I would be shocked if this went to trial. Charges haven't even been filed. They can arrest him every day for a month and that doesn't mean rape charges will be filed.
And before everyone starts demanding that this girl be punished for "filing false reports" they need to remember that she never wanted to go to the police and she doesn't have the power to file charges. The district attorney will examine the police reports and determine if the boy could/should be charged with anything. This was all taken out of her hands the second dad made her talk to the police.
Also, how often do you think rape victims will come forward in he said/she said cases if she will likely face charges herself if no evidence is found?
I don't see
it going to trial either.
I am almost certain that this boy could be looking at revenge though.
And sorry, but she would
And sorry, but she would deserve every bit of it.
I hope your DH takes SD’s
I hope your DH takes SD’s threats of suicide seriously. She sounds like she’s in dire need of some intensive inpatient therapy. She’ll either act on this threat, or use it as continual emotional hostage leverage with those around her, or both. Regardless of her motives, she needs some serious help.
And, yes. Due to her own actions, a legal defense would absolutely destroy her in court. I hope your DH has a come to jesus talk with her regarding this.
She uses the suicide
to hold everyone emotional hostage. She has been threatening to kill herself since she was 6 or 7 years old. She has never actually "attempted" to do so. She has only made threats.
If DH or BM tries to initiate any type of punishment, suicide is always used. She knows they will take her seriously. She knows that all the focus will be back to her instead of whatever she did.
It is a double edge sword. If they try to take away her phone, they think she will kill herself. If they let her keep the phone, she could be endangering herself. To them, it is better for her to keep the phone. I am not so sure I believe I would do that if she was my BD. I believe I would take the phone, move to the middle of the country where there is no internet or no cell phone service for awhile. We do have areas around here that we can do that or I would look at steps to have her committed. I would try to find out why she is doing what she is doing. Her safety should be top concern.
Oh, I get it. I do.
Oh, I get it. I do.
But... if you (general “you”) threaten suicide to me I will always act upon said threat. I’ll even make the appropriate phone calls for you and see that you get a one-way ticket to inpatient ASAP.
I don’t play with stuff like this and you shouldn’t either.
BM has...
She has been in the Psy unit of the hospital MULTIPLE times. Each time she goes it is $10,000 out of pocket for BM and DH to pay. After a while, BM stopped sending her because it wasn't helping her.
Hope you have a lot of pop corn
She is 17, she had sex, if he rape her, and she was that upset, she would not invited him back For round two. All she wants is attention. From her father, the police, the boy. She needs professional help. BM and BF should be getting her professional help not playing games with the police. That what parenting is.
I hope that the DA drops the
I hope that the DA drops the charges, and if this kids parents had any brains they would be suing SD for defamation of character and would request that she be forced to undergo mandatory psychiatric treatment.
Your SD is mentally ill and unstable, it's appalling that the two people who created her have done nothing to try and get her help or be strong enough to ensure she's not out destroying more lives other than her own.
I agree...
She has been in counseling for awhile. She has a counselor and a psychiatrist. She is very good at manipulation.
I haven't commented on any of
I haven't commented on any of your posts yet but just wanted to say I am following your story. I can't stand hearing about these girls that cry rape and literally ruin people's lives.
From all I've read it doesn't sound to me like she's been raped at all. She must be extremely unlucky to have been raped so many times!
I hope she gets her comeuppance I really do. Will continue to read your updates please do keep us posted, and I wish you alot of luck with keeping your cool.... I don't think I could have stayed as quiet as you have lol.