Uncle accused of abuse - help. Advice.
I thought it would be another day like any other.
Munchkin was sick when her mother dropped her off (looked very bloated, stomach pains, and diarreah), so we kept her home and I stayed with her. I figured she had a lot to say, and I wasnt wrong. I just did not expect to hear what I did! I really need some advice.
Munchkin had a talk with her sister, about why she doesnt visit gma anymore and why she hates uncle so much. Uncle provies in-home care for gma, and lives at her house and get paid to do so. During the weekends, previously, Feral Eldest would spend weekends there taking care of gma, while uncle went off to get away. Feral Eldest told Munchkin that uncle is a pervert and a really bad person, who would oogle her breasts and take her shopping for bikinis, insisting she try on the too small ones, and that she has a sexy body for a teenager. She has always had a very well-developed body that was top-heavy and was skinny everywhere else, but she always wore baggy stuff. Feral Eldest related one incident where uncle tried to lock her in his room, on pretense of showing her glow-in-the-dark ceiling stick ons. He never touched her, or she didnt say he did, but looked and made comments on her body.
- this is the same person who has a reputation as a pathological liar, has accused me of being abusive, her father of hitting her and hurting her, was caught stealing, and lied about it. Her father has never abused her, and I have never abused her. The last thing I texted her was that we loved her.
What the heck should I do? Yeah of course I promised Munchkin I wouldnt say anything, and Feral Eldest is now 19 1/2 - according to her this happened when she was 15-16. I just told Munchkin that I guess I believe her, but dont know what to think. I told Munchkin that it makes me sad, and that if anything ever happens, please call us immediately, no questions will be asked.
Should I tell DH? This is his brother and they are close. He has a large family, and he is known to enjoy gambling, but Feral Eldest accused him of siphoning off money to gamble with.
I of course want to honor my word to Munchkin. Feral Eldest is an adult now. It would do no good spouting off, unless Munchkin was in any danger. Im thinking that I should tell DH, with understanding that this was in confidence. This is his daughter, but I just dont know if I really and truly believe her.
As a father, it would be his duty to approach his brother. Or would it? Help, Im in way over my head on this.