Twisted Vines of Non-Truths (again)
So, things have been quiet in Toxic Troll world with Feral Forger SD21 sort of being nice and normal. Until Munchkin SD14 comes to our house for her weekly vistation. Munchkin is a buffer between the two, and when its just them, things always blow up eventually. Because they are twins. Feral Forger is Toxic Trolls not-so-mini-me.
First off, I have taken advice to heart. But still need a vent sesh with you all to unleash that beast that wants to yell and gnash teeth.
Munchkin tells me that "because my mom asked her to do chores, now she is threatening suicide. And because she is upsetting my mom, my mom was yelling at her." You see I had to swing her by the apartment Friday to pick up her computer for school work. To complete on Spring break. She slipped in and slipped out because "it didnt look pretty in there." Shes still cheerful so that was fine.
Then at home Toxic Troll calls her crying "its just so stressful and shes just so mean!" Munchkin sooths her and all is well in my world as we are going along.
Saturday night Munchkin calls her to "check in", and her mother spends 2 hours spinning her dark and twisted non-truths
Main Non-truth: She did not abuse Feral Forger as FF is telling Munchkin. She just pinned her against the wall and held her there, because she wasnt listening.
Dark and twisted truth: I saw the bruises on FF's forehead and temple. I saw that she couldnt drink even a small amount of water. I had seen the texts from TT BM that 'she had choked her, body slammed her against the wall and slapped her. that at least she was 18, lol.' Id also had a lengthy convo with FF about the dangers of being choked and that thats the fastest way to kill someone, that it would happen again (it did).
So...I did mention to Munchkin that "you know your mother isnt exactly solid on the truth. she has accused us of abusing you?"
Munchkin got that frowny face, like when shes in conflict. "yeah, well FF always lies, and my mom is just upset." Yeah shes upset and you two are bonding over her trauma of getting yelled at by her kid about abuse that definitely happened 5 years ago. TT's committing a sort of trauma bonding with munchkin. I dont even know the name for it except enmeshment.
Munchkin looked happy and cheerful about the attention shes getting from her mother. Lots and lots of attention. Made me sick to my stomach.
So, normally would detail things, stick my neck out. Thanks to steptalk and its cold hard truths, I spent the next day with munchkin enjoying each others company, didnt say squat, and we had lunch and I taught her how to cook a nice taco dinner. Something new Im going to institute is she cooks us dinner 1 night a week, which she was happy about. Those tacos were darn good! And my stomach is still turning, as the dark twisted vines of non-truths reach out to me, choking back my emotions.