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Where do I even start...Sorry this is long. BM done lost her mind... again.

BSgoinon's picture

First- we go to court on Monday. FINALLY.

But of course before we can even GET to court, BM has to be a complete whack job.

After we got home from NY, BM started texting DH about seeing SS on his bday. DH was ignoring her completely, so she started texting me. I also ignored her. SS actually started responding to her about 2 days before his bday. BM assumed that meant he was ready to see her. Not so. Even though I was not responding to her texts, I was talking to SS about if he wanted to see her on his bday. His answer was "NO, not ON my bday. Maybe another day, but not ON my bday". The only thing I can assume is that he just didn't want to have to deal with her crap on his day. He was having a party at home and probably just didn't want to think about her and her crap. Ok, we don't push it. He doesn't want to see her. And we really don't WANT her to see him, but it was his bday.

BM continues to text accusing DH and I of keeping SS's phone from him, or telling him he CAN'T see her. Neither of which was true. If he said yes, we would have worked something o out for a supervised SHORT visit. Whatever. We ignore. She then starts telling us that she moved in to a place on a ranch and she is "clean". Still we ignore her. She starts asking SS "which day do you want to see me? Saturday or Sunday?". Trying to back him in to a corner. Every time she asked he would stop texting her.

In the mean time, my sister sees on her exboyfriends FB page that BM is renting a room from him and his brand new wife. They are a very young couple, no kids. She takes it upon herself (my sister is 24 years old, a very IMMATURE 24 at that) to "warn" her exboyfriend about the woman he is renting to. She said some less than nice things. None of which were incorrect, just not worded very nicely.

Well, his wife was more irritated with the fact that his exgirlfriend contacted him, than she was about the fact that she just let a junkie move in to there house. So... she teams up with BM. Shows her all of the messages from my sister (so what). And BM spills about her drug problem and SWEARS she is clean and just wants to be better for her son (boo-frickin'-hoo).

BM then calls DH and leaves him a message that she will be filing "civil harassments" suits against me and my sister and a temp restraining order. Ummmm... I had NOTHING to do with any of it. NOTHING. And my sister never threatened her or even contacted her. She thought she was helping an old friend. She just doesn't have the most common sense in her delivery. So... ok BM, go ahead. You file a restraining order against me, then you will REALLY never see your kid. Since he is with me 365 days a year. You idiot. I don't say anything about any of this to her. I don't care if she wants to waste her time on filing "charges" that will never go anywhere. LOL. That's her problem.

Wednesday SS had baseball. His grandpa (BM's dad) picked him up from there and took him home with him to stay the night. He brought him home Thursday night at 9pm. Vital information for what happened next...

Friday BM wants to drop off a gift for SS's bday at DH's work. NO WAY, absolutely NOT. Fine, I will drop it off at your house on the porch then. NO, do NOT step foot on my property. BM threatens DH "if you give me issues with this, I will show up on your door step with our custody paperwork and the sheriff". Real nice BM. DH ignores her. Meanwhile.. SS is home with one of his friends. Just the two of them are there. DH was afraid BM would ring the bell and SS would see on the camera that it was his mom and open the door. BM doesn't know we have camera's. So, she does drop his gift off. Then leaves and texts SS to tell him to go out and get it. He waits about 20 minutes (I think he wanted to make sure she was really gone) goes out and gets it. Never says anything to BM. About an hour later she texts him "are you ok". Uhhh, yeah. "did you get your gift".... Yeah, thanks. It was a card (she was sure to sign it LOVE YOUR MOTHER, with MOTHER underlines a million times) and a picture frame with a key in it that says "family holds the key to your heart".

Saturday goes by without an issue. We did ask SS one time if he was sure he didn't want to see her "NO, I don't want to". Ok, subject dropped. Sunday morning. SS seems a little down. I ask him "you ready to see her". "yeah, I think so". So... I text her mom, who was picking SS up for dinner. Ask her if she would be ok with taking BM with them so SS could see her. He says he is ready, and it is his bday. She doesn't answer me for a while. Finally she texts back and says that she just got off the phone with BM, BM yelled at her told she hates her and so on. She didn't even get a chance to say "hey your son wants to see you, can you do dinner with us". So... she blew that chance.

Then... here's the REALLY fun part. BM calls DH about an hour later. Leaves a message because of course, he ignored it. She says that her dad told her that SS was at his house until 9pm on Friday, and she knows it wasn't him that got his gift off the porch and was texting her. How could he have gotten it if he was in another city until 9pm??? How dare DH and I text from SS's phone pretending to be him... ummmm WHAT?!?! Dh laughed and had me listen to the VM. She has lost her damn mind.

At the same time, she is texting SS "I know you weren't home when I dropped your gift off, grandpa said you were at his house until 9pm. How could you have gotten my gift if you weren't even at your dads when I asked you about it???". SS's face just dropped. He had NO IDEA what she was talking about. He replies "huh?". She goes off on him about telling her the TRUTH and that she knows it wasn't him that was texting because he wasn't even home. He says "I don't know what you are talking about, I was home all day Friday". Then he got upset and left his phone at home while we went out for lunch and to the mall for MY birthday. As we walked out the door he turned to me and said "I don't want to see my mom anymore". But he didn't tell me what she was saying to him. could tell it wasn't good just by his demeanor. I read the text conversation before we left. I wanted to know why all of the sudden he was upset.

So, I broke the silence.

"BM, your dad had SS from Wednesday night after practice at 8pm until Thursday night at 9pm. Your dad asked him to stay one more night, but SS told him he wanted to come home. So they brought him home ON THURSDAY. You dropped his gift off, against our will at OUR property on FRIDAY. It was SS that got it, it was SS that was texting you, and it is SS that you just pissed off again so bad that he changed his mind about seeing you. This morning he woke up and said he was ready. Now he doesn't want to see you again. Way to go!". Two hours later she responds "thank you". Ummmm... ok.

Needless to say, she never filed harassment charges, and she never filed a restraining order. And even now that she knows SS wanted to see her, she hasn't pursued seeing him. She did text SS and apologize "grandpa had his days wrong, but I had to ask. I'll call you tomorrow". That was on Sunday. He hasn't heard from her since.

She is exhausting.

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uofarkchick's picture

Freaking junkies... Everything is always happening TO them, not BECAUSE of them.

Maxwell09's picture

Oh my goodness. That poor boy. I can't even imagine how you held it all in. I would have exploded on her while she was griping to SS accusing him of lieing. Ugh that poor boy has to deal with so much and it's only going to get worse when he's out on his own in the world and she just pops in on him because I can totally see that happening. He'll be off in an apartment in college and she'll whined him down until he finally agrees to see her and then once she figures out where he's staying, she'll camp out.

As for your sister's ex's new girlfriend sided with BM even though she barely knows her and your sister was just trying to be nice albeit it wasn't technically her business, I'm dealing with that kind of situation myself. I get it. It's frustrating when new people enter the scene and they're so easily fooled. SS5 started Kidnergarten today. I met with the teacher for testing, I showed up for the Parent meeting and boom. BM waltz in, had a little private chat with the teacher and all of a sudden the teacher's demeanor towards me has changed (I showed up at lunch to help with their first day like she asked me to in the parent meeting). There's nothing I can do but just hang back like I did in his preschool days and let my actions speak for themselves and let BM's lack thereof speak for themselves. Your sister's Ex's new girlfriend will learn quick, unless of course they do drugs together then I can see why she'd continuously sides with BM.

BSgoinon's picture

Oh, new wife sent a LOONNNGG scathing email to DH. It is comical. Please, stranger that has known BM for 4 whole days, tell me again why I should allow BM to drive with my small child because you think she is "trying". DH says he is going to keep the email and when BM burns them he will reply with a very simple "HA".

I love that man.

bearcub25's picture

I think its time your Dh take those texts and VMs to the cops and file harassment charges on her and get her rights taken away.

Its hard to deal with an addict as an adult, he shouldn't have to go thru that while he is a kid.

BSgoinon's picture

WE are just going to present them in court next week. DH is out of the state until late friday night.