When is it not my problem?
SS16 has Instagram account.
SS16 has another Instagram account.
BM knows about both and says one is just for posting stupid memes.
SS16 allows parents to follow both accounts.
Suddenly I discover that I can no longer follow the second Instagram account. I know it has been updated recently because the profile pic is one from New Years Eve. This account also has double the posts of the other account. Sent a Follow request about a week ago. No response. I suspect SS16 is posting stuff that he doesn't want us to see and I have some theories as to what it might be. His BM follows the account and I know she is the type that would not raise a fuss about the type of stuff I suspect.
So, at what point do I throw my hands up and say "I don't give a sh**!" My skids and I generally get along well, albiet at more of a distance as they progress into teenagerism. But they're showing signs of some behavior that will need to be addressed lest it should blow up in their (and our) face. My DH and his ex come from families that would gladly hand over birth control and a pack of Bud Light and say 'Have fun' with a smile on their face. I come from an old-fashioned upbringing where you were expected to be chaste until marriage and save the wild-oat-sowing for college. I followed the rules and have absolutely ZERO regrets. But I'm afraid for my skids. BM and DH are far too permissive and very blasé about the potential consequences. I would rather take a preventive stance than have to tell these skids "I told you so".
Does anyone else care enough about their skids to worry?