And the Lies Continue - Stupid Lies
So a couple days ago, SD11 came downstairs as we were getting ready to play some UNO, and I look up and her face has this pinkish tinge to it. I ask her what happened to her face. She says she doesn't know. I said there is no way your face looks like that and you don't know what happened. So she then says when she was pooping that she grabbed her face because she was trying to remember something that her and BD13 were talking about. I told her that made absolutely no sense and that her story doesn't add up with the way her face looks. She just kept saying that was what happened. Her dad then told her to act it out and when she did, it definitely didn't add up. So I told her to go back upstairs, and then told her dad it looked like makeup. He said go check. So I walk upstairs, to find her in the bathroom, wiping her face off with her sleeve. I asked what she was doing and she said she was just rubbing her eye. I then call her out and say that she's wearing makeup and she says she's not. I say look at your sleeve, that's makeup. If you had "grabbed your eye" you would not be able to rub it off like that. She continues to say, with tears now, that it isn't makeup and she really did just grab her eye. At this point, I bring DH in and he takes over because I'm overly mad (I hate being lied to directly to my face like that). He tells her pretty much the same, that there is nothing else that would be rubbing off her face other than makeup. She is now hysterically crying, swearing it wasn't makeup and she doesn't know what else to say because she's telling the truth. At this point she is told she can sit and do nothing until she wants to tell us the truth. 3 hours go by, and I ask her if she wants to tell the truth yet, and she says she was wearing makeup (SHOCKER!), but then the story shifts again and she only gives a half truth. She says she used one of those halloween makeup crayons - which she did, for lipstick. But the tinge I saw was most definitely eyeshadow or blush. Which leads me to believe she either used my makeup or my BD13's makeup without permission and doesn't want to own up to that also. Either way, this really ridiculous insignificant thing turned into some MASSIVE problem all because she dead face lied to us. Her wearing makeup, wouldn't have been a big deal - that's the craziest part about this. We were just lounging around the house anyway, so if she wanted to play with makeup, she could have.
Anyway, that was a couple days ago... since then she has been walking around with this screw everyone attitude (and as I mentioned in previous blog, I also found a note/2 page letter she had written after this lying situation occured about how she wished I wasn't around and making it very clear I'm not her mom). So today, my BD13 was cleaning the upstairs bathroom (that's her normal Wednesday chore) and finds a piece of toilet paper folded up next to the garbage can that says DIE! on it in that same red halloween makeup crayon... I immediately call SD11 in and tell her how unacceptable that is, and that I don't really care if she wants me to die, I know she doesn't like me and that's been made super clear, but this sort of behavior will not be tolerated. She says she didn't write it, SS9 did. So I bring him into the mix... the other liar of the family (also discussed in previous blog). Can you guess? He didn't do it either! He knows nothing about it. Then SD11 starts the water works again and crying about how he told her he was going to test the makeup and see if she was telling the truth or not, and he was up in her face super close telling her he was going to do this last night. I told them I didn't really care what it said, and all I asked was who did it, but both of them are going to stand there and say they didn't do it, they are going to look me and each other in the eye and lie, and THAT is why we have as big of an issue in this house as we do. That I don't believe either of them because of the fact they both have a track record of lying and that long story short, this behavior will not be tolerated from either of them.
I am just so heated that not a day goes by where one of them isn't lying or causing a problem. I honestly cannot wait for school to get back in session in a week and a half so that I don't have to be home with them all day.
Side note: both of these kids call me mom (to my face, but refer to me by my name or "step mom" to other people), and yet they both despise me and I'm not much fonder of them. I don't even want them to call me mom anymore.