SD came into womanhood this morning
My SD11 started her period this morning. We knew it was coming for various reasons, but it officially happened this morning before school.
Prior to the huge blow up between her and I a few months ago when I took a gigantic step back from both her and her brother as "mom", her and I had had "the talk" and I shared with her my first time experience and what to expect and all that wonderful stuff. So when it happened this morning, it was just me here, her dad had already left for work and I took a pretty calm approach to the whole thing. Showed her how to actually use a pad, gave her some extras just in case she needed them at school, and went about getting my youngest daughter ready for school. I mean in reality regardless of the situation, I'm not sure anyone wants to make it a big deal, I know I didn't when I was that age and it happened.
Even after all the awful things that have happened between SD and I, a piece of me is kind of sad that I am now in a position where I am disengaged and have no connection with her. That maternal instinct wants to be more there for her, but not at the price I have paid over the last several years. She doesn't want me around and no amount of "mothering" her will help that. But obviously as we hit this milestone today, I WANTED to be there for her but I could tell for her I was just the only adult in the house so she took what she could get.