Question for those who had to move far away from BM/Skids for a job
My career has been in the financial services field. There is a possibility that I would have to move to take advantage of a new and better job opportunity. We would likely have to move to NY/NJ area so I could work in the city. (We are in FL now). FDH used to live/work there and there are lots of opportunities still there in his industry (far more than here). We do NOT want to move. We love it here. But it may become inevitable at some point in the next six months.
FDH has always lived within 30-40 minutes of the kids. Two are out of the house now, and the remaining are 15 and 12. (As you know, the 12 year old has issues and never wants to visit but does most of the time). We are currently EOWE and one day per week plus two vacation weeks spread out.
I am sure BM will absolutely flip out if this happens. She won't be able to demand that he does her job for her, and would definitely feel as if she'd lost control of him. And we'd have to change the agreement to something like they visit us for a week at spring break, week at Christmas and x weeks during the summer.
For those of you have been through this, what are things I'll need to think about if this comes to pass?