BM added her old wedding photo with DH to her household decor recently- help
It’s been several months since I’ve posted. I’ve stayed away in order to stay positive but I’ve run across a situation to which only the ladies of Step Talk can possibly relate.
Today, BM texted DH and said “SD13 is freaking out and wouldn’t go to school. Are you on your business trip? If not, can you stop by my house and check on her? I couldn’t be late for work and or miss any time today”. He responded by telling her that he hadn’t yet left for his business trip however he also had to be at work on time. Of course, she yelled at him and was a big bitch. Finally, it came out the SD13 was actually having an episode of very high glucose (she’s diabetic). Since DH was already at work an hour away, I went over there to check on SD. We got her under control and all was well.
BUT, while I was there, I noticed something very, very odd. In a curio cabinet that is prominently displayed in the main living area, one of the three special photos she had displayed was one of her and DH at their wedding!! They’ve been separated 8+ years and divorced 7+!!
I asked DH about this and he was shocked. He said he’s never seen it in her house and was rather wigged out by it. Now, she’s only lived in this place since June and it was my first visit inside there. She previously lived with a guy for 8 months and prior to that, I’d been to her old house multiple times and never saw that photo out anywhere. So, basically, this is a rather new edition to her living room décor!
My first question to you: When do you think she started displaying this photo?
A- When she moved in to this place in June (and DH never noticed)?
B- Last week when she got really pissed at me for finally telling her to eff off after 4 years of her games and abusive behavior?
C- Three weeks ago when she found out (by seeing tax returns) that although our big wedding is scheduled for April of next year, that DH and I actually are already married legally?
D- Over this weekend (DH hasn’t been there since last week) and she thought DH was leaving this morning for his trip and thought I’d end up going over there to check on SD in his absence if she threw a big fit about the kid being in need?
E- Some combination of the above?
Second—what do you think should be done about this? Now, I realize you can’t tell someone what to do in their own house but this is really psychologically confusing and possibly damaging to her kids, especially the youngest who is really having issues. She knows the kids are excited about our wedding and that they will all be IN the wedding (happily, I might add). Should DH happen to “notice” it next time he’s there to pick up the kids and say something to her? It’s so freaking inappropriate. Or should it be completely ignore? Any other advice?