Certain BMs ... forever victims
Seems like a trend with a lot of the high conflict or just generally screwed up BMs... that because they had kids, regardless of why the relationship actually ended... they were wronged. Period.
I find that BM loves to preach about forgiveness and her profound personal growth. One of those newfound spirituality, peace n' love, pray for those who wronged you, I choose forgiveness, crystals, peace signs and feathers namaste types of people. Then she will light a cigarette and talk shit about everyone.
Her MO seems to be to really drive the point home that she is forgiving "others" (i.e. my SO, me) for her own sanity. Creating this picture of herself as an innocent young mother who was just left to fend for herself. The picture of poise and grace in the face of adversity.
The reality is she was a cheating, scheming drug addict while pregnant and after. My SO didn't love her to begin with so there was no reason to stick if out. She brought nothing whatsoever to the table except mental anguish and legal problems.
So what is with the martyr act? If you are a shitty partner you are a shitty partner, it doesn't matter if you gave birth. I respect people more who admit they acted like shitbags or don't say anything and move on.
Also, If I was a raging sociopath who put a child directly in harm's way and had it splashed all over the local news, I would be likely be hiding under a rock. I hate when people go to great lengths to cloak their shittiness in mock wisdom. If you were a scumbag in 2017, you aren't suddenly a wise revolutionary in 2018.
The desperate need for public praise irks me.