So wow... I never thought that prenancy could be such a total life makeover. I knew being a new mom would be difficult and trying but I say again wow. I have no urge to do anything other then eat and sleep. If I try to do anything else I generally feel nauseus enough to merit laying down and going to sleep. So heres my issue.
We are getting my SD on the 20th of Dec for two weeks.

It all started in aug we got all calll to come get his kids. their bio mom had a stroke wich turns out was a lie. they told us she had it that day but really it was months before. found out later that 13 year old sd had a fight with her step dad.the real reason we made a 4 hour drive to get them.well i was so happy to get to have them here with us .until they went home for their first visit and came home diffrent kids they no longer wanted to listen and started lying about stuff.the 13year old sd.

I just want to send some love to all of the SMs and BMs on this site who feel slighted, hurt, misunderstood, and are really trying their best to deal with situations that can bring out the worst in any person.

I understand how it feels to be caught in the middle of the "battle" and constantly take shots from all involved and not feel supported at times.

Well, everyone is coming up with monikers for their skids, so I've decided on some for mine:

SD15 is Sleeping Beauty. She is the spitting image of my MIL, who was a model. She is a beautiful girl!

SD12 is Annie. She doesn't look like Annie (no red, curly hair) but she has the same spunk that Annie has.

There are my new monikers for my skids!

I have a question that stems off of Druzilla's blog- It's ok if you don't love the kid!!!
I am needing some ideas on how to respond to my sd's.

So I get home from work and apparently SD had already started in with DH. She dropped her cell phone in a puddle after school and demanded DH take her to purchase another one immediately. He told her to just let it dry out and it will work again. She refused and demanded that he take her to the store to get new one again. DH stood his ground and said no. SD throws a hissy fit. Then she says she is moving out with MIL but will sleep at a friends house during the week to go to school. So DH tells her she has until such and such date to get out.

I told my mom about this site and even got her to read some of the posts and she thinks that this is a great site for us to come and vent in order to get things off our chest...Then she posed a great question to me, once you come here and vent do you still walk around with some type of anxiety or anger in your heart if so then have we really vented......Also she wanted me to ask the group that after venting do we go tell our DH's we love them, ladies when was the last time you told your DH you love him, if you cant say today, then you are wrong.

For all of you who havent had the opportunity to ever sit down and speak to your DH's BM, if you had that chance what would you really say.....Chime in.....

This Q is for you veteran stepparents:
WHAT THINGS DO YOU DO TO PROTECT YOUR PRIVACY?

How hard has it been to do this?

I am struggling.

I don't want the kids in our bedroom, DH sometimes lets them in and sometimes they do it so innocently.

If ANY fight/disagreement happens between DH and I, they report back.

We live with our in-laws and even my MIL is concerned, because SD snoops in all the drawers and reports back to BM and her family. My MIL has people who come to her and tell her about things going on in her own house.

DH has become more than obsessed with SD..when he's not texting her, he's following her every move on facebook & twitter. If thats not enuf ...he watches via satellite her athletic games at her college on the computer. Its beyond me to even try to talk to him. Last night, he's sitting in bed with the laptop just laughing at all her facebook stuff. It sure doesnt promote any romance in bed!