Husband and I are happily back together. However we have a situation I need advice with. Another women is pregnant with his child. I posted a blog prior and people just wanted to know all the details of why this happen. Honestly it's a long story and me telling it is not going to help me at this point. So what I need is advice on how to be a good SM without crossing boundaries. The baby is not here yet and I'm trying to prepare myself to somewhat handle the situation ahead of time. I do not have my own kids but Ive helped raise kids since I was 11. I am now 24.

I am legally married but I have not changed my last name. I dont really think it makes a difference, and to be honest I am really lazy to go through the process lol. Like Ive mentioned before DH has my name tattoed on him so yesterday he said to me " babe if ur not going to tattoo my name on u then can u atleast change ur last name? I feel like you dont have anything of me". I said "well what about the kids? what more do u need?" lol.

I am on the search for a new book to read! Any suggestions? What are your favorites?

A little about my book-reading tastes (although it seems to change with the season):
Eat, Pray, Love - inspirational/spiritual and way better than the movie
The History of Love - deep-thinking and great love story
Harry Potter - so easy but so magical!
The Kitchen Boy - historical fiction and a real page-turner
I used to read James Patterson - easy reads and page turners, but would almost read them too fast!

Besides come to ST?

I tend to flip flop between:

- doing something with FH. Watching movies is one of our favourite de-stress activities, but we also go for walks, go out and do something random (bowling has happened, for example it was a blast, TBH) or heck, even doing errands like groceries with FH is fun.

This weekend we are going camping.
I am totally excited about it because well, I love the natural environment, the kids are a blast and DH mellows out. Plus our dogs get really goofy.
I also love to eat Smores without the chocolate and the graham cracker

Anyone who knows me well would probably say I'm the happy go-lucky optimistic chick. I would have too, 6 months ago.
Ever since DH and I got married I've been down. Moody, tired, not hungry...just down off and on. I've been trying to just suck it up and get over the feeling, but it's haunting me.
DH knows I've been like this. He goes back and forth between, "If you're miserable in our marriage, just leave, I can't deal with this" and "Honey, I want to fight for us...what can I do?"

Ok, so FDH has been through mediation and years of court proceedings- not for custody/child support -but for spousal support. BM (SAHBM) wants LIFETIME spousal support because she has Fibromyalgia and Epstein-Barr. :sick:

This is the same woman who called me a money grubbing whore (not to my face, of course).

Spunky inspired me to complain about my ex as well, and give BM a break...but just this once

I need some advice on how you all handle child support. My husband pays a substantial amount of money to my SS BM. I'm sure I don't have to tell you that she doesn't spend it on what HE needs, it has been going to her other 2 very young kids the past 2 years. Now we found out that she is preganant again. She doesn't work. So my question is, do your husband's talk to the BM about the money and on what it is being spent? Have any of you had to have a talk with the BM about getting ready to adjust to not getting the money after the kid turns 19?

I am really having a hard time dealing with this. Two years ago my ss, who is not 22, decided to drop out of college (college is not right for everyone). He had a few student loans. He was suppose to start paying them back and told his parents that he was.

For some reason he had his dad's address and his moms cell phone number and email account on the file. This was before my time so I dont know all the details of why this happend.