I saw a trailer for a soon to be released movie I'd really like to see called "Cyrus." It seems like it deals with the nightmares of dealing with an adult stepchild. The two "parents" are played by John C. Reilly and Marissa Tomei and the stepkid is that chubby guy from Superbad. From what I gathered from the trailer it seems to be done in a comical, yet real and touching way. Sort of like "The Squid and the Whale" which if you haven't seen that - it's an awesome look at a marriage with children that breaks up and how they all deal with it.

Do any of you have this problem?:
Grandparents treating grandchildren very differently... a) Doting over new baby (yours and DH/DW) and b)slighting the children of DH and BM (i.e. your stepkids)

We actually live with DH's parents right now. So the stepkids come every weekend and were here for a few days extra this summer. Their preference is blatant. Grandparents exude LOVE for baby, and the stepkids are tolerated. Grandma tries to pretend there's love, but the difference in love for stepkids and love for baby is so prominent. Grandpa barely even tries to pretend.

So here goes......I'm new here and not sure how this all works. I'm living with a man who has two children girl 13 and boy 9. I have two children girl 21 and boy 19. Non of whom get along. We've tried combined vacations to no avail. Most of our problems stem from his 13 year old gaughter who never seems to be happy, no matter what anyone does for her. It seems she continuously tries to cause arguments in our home.

I simply wonder if we were all to sit down... lay down the blame and the anger, what would you be left with?

Would love fill your heart?

Would it be peace?

I did that. I handed over the stress of the ex and gently and firmly layed the burdens in the lap of my husband. I let go of all that she is and was.

I waited on my contentment and happiness to overflow my senses. I sat in anticipation as the sound of her voice faded away.

Her silence has brought me comfort... as I'm sure mine has brought her comfort as well.

I am so tired of having to make SS the focus of everything. Actually, of SS making himself the focus of everything. I may throw up, if I hear “look at this” one more time from the boy. PS…I don’t hate SS. He is troubled and a bit odd, but better than I though he would be at 17.

}:My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year.(We have dated in the past). He was married for 5 years. He has two children ages 5 and 7. I have a daughter who is 14. She controls him more than I ever thought was possible. She uses the kids as pawns, and because of the fear of her keeping them away from him, he does what she says. His son was eligible to go to kindergarten last year, she didn't feel he was ready and held him back. He gave her 70 cash weekly(without going threw the courts) to shut her up. It was for his day care payment.

We dropped the kids back off at their mom's yesterday afternoon after their long summer stay with us. We won't see them again for several weeks, it sure is quiet. (Sigh) It feels weird because I'm back to doing the laundry of just two people, only making one bed, fixing dinner for two instead of five and I have no one to give me an excuse to see the newest cartoon movies in 3D...

I will probably never understand this, I guess because I dont think the way BM does. her and dh dated for several years and were always breaking up and getting back together, maybe that is why she thinks that she actually has a chance again with dh, even though he has told her several times he is done with her, he is with me now, that he is MARRIED to me, (something he never did with her) and that we are together for life.

i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, his son was only 4 months old when we started dating. since the start his BM has been causing trouble, mostly with me. She got a boyfriend about a year ago and the bull stopped for a while he has now left her she has a 4 month old with this other man. The problems havent started back up with me but everything seems to be on my step son. She has always pushed him off on everyone else since he was little and even worse now.

Something Princess said Friday night really got to me... it made me realize I spend too much time doing things for others, which is pointless, since obviously it goes unappreciated. As I got ready for bed, I saw a Weight Watchers commercial, advertising a $1 joining fee. I thought to myself, I could do that...