First, let me say that this is a wonderful website to be part of. I'm happy to have found such a website that allows me to vent on issues that I constantly bottle up inside for the sake of my relationship with my bf. I have been very confused about this whole soon to be stepdaughter/blended family issue since my boyfriend and I started dating. My boyfriend and I seem to be on the same page on wanting this blended family issue to work out and hopefully on becoming a family someday. I have been dating him for over a year now and have decided to live together.
Is it love? Is it fear of being alone or of failure? We, step-parents, endure a lot of things from DH, SD, BM, SS, etc.. Why do we keep on dealing with it? At what point do we admit to ourselves that nothing is going to change. Should you decide to stay, then you are facing a life sentence and must accept that. Should you leave, you are admitting that love, patience, sacrifice, and communication is not enough to hold it together without help from all parties involved. Why do we continue to take verbal abuse, manipulation, lies, etc..
I have been reading this website for a while, well I need help.I am dating 58yo who has been married 3X, first wife literally certifiably insane, a BS(31yo)and BioD(28yo) from this, 2nd wife died of cancer, adopted son,and last marriage w/SD(22yo) who was still ahnging around for college money when I met him.I have two Sons(12and 14)we have talked marriage for longtime, bought house togetherlast eyar , he still lives in his house thatwa sfor sale.
So DH and I try to both be involved in all the kids stuff. I've always tried to go to conferences for the SK's so I know their teachers and understand what's going. DH comes to my BK conferences. But I hate it!
I'm dreading going to the conference for my 7yo SD in a few hours for several reasons:
there was someone on this site when i first signed up that worked for the family court in fresno. i cant remeber your name but if your still a part of this forum i need some advice. could you PM ME??? THANKS!
Come out come out wherever you are!!!! Has anyone heard from her? I just saw her name and realized I haven't seen her in quite sometime. If you are out there ARE YOU OKAY???
Just to let you all know if you're wondering... After my DH told the kids to "get a ride" and go home to their mom's he went to see their counselor. Here is what he said:
I got all the sentancing info and found that BM must have an Interlock system to get an occupational license to drive at all. Dh and I were pretty sure she didn't have an occupational license because she left her car at the daycare after she called the police last week.
When we picked SD up last night Dh looked in both of BM's cars (she has one that doesn't run because she let some guy drive when she had no ins. and he ruined the engine) and she doesn't have the Interlock breath thing in either one. Therefor, she does not have a licence to drive at all!
I'm not sure how many of you have read this book. I just started, but in the first chapter there were several paragraphs I want to share with you guys. They were pretty enlightening. I've really been praying a lot for a way to help ME deal with Andrea's bull shit games, and (I believe) the answer was given to me in this book, together with me starting to run again (this has always been my stress outlet).
These paragraphs can be found on pages 4-5:
Some days I wake up and wonder how in the world I got myself into this!!!! I don't even know where to begin, but since I'm new I'll quickly glaze through it cause looks like most everyone knows exactly where I'm comming from.