Right so a few things have happened recently, I've come to realise that i really don't care about the ex and that if anything, she probably cares more than i do.

Ok I posted a while back that dh wanted to put green in our christmas colors when I use purple and gold. I told he could do that and I was making plans for such. Well a few years ago dh wanted a fiber optic tree so I got him one. A little 4 ft one. So anyway the other night he said I'm going use MY tree for MY green decorations! LMAO!

Hey there S-talkers… long time no post! I’ve been popping in checking on everyone when I can but I’ve really not had a chance to write. Things have been chugging along as per usual… DH is still struggling to find work, Mother Russia is still drifting at sea trying to “find herself” while putting forth a half-assed attempt at motherhood, the boys are normal, healthy boys… and I’m still “faking it till I make it” in regards to living in a new city that I hate.

The usual.

Sending out Christmas cards just seems like more of a hassle than something enjoyable now a days. I often get confused on what to do. For example, DH's brother has a gf that got "accidently pregnant". They have gone back and fourth always fighting and have been on the brink of calling it quits more times than I can count. Do I write her name in the x-mas card? How do i know that they arent going to be split up by the time the cards make it to their house? One of my friends has a kid with her husband and he also has a kid from his ex gf. She doesn't really care for skid.

So we had SSs last night...

I thought this might be helpful to others so I am going to share the advice the marriage counselor gave us. This was an all day intensive session. Started at 9 and we left at 4:30, other than lunch it was just the three of us, talking about us. It was intense. I won't bore you with the details, but this guy is very well known, been quoted in almost every therapy magazine out there and should know what he's talking about. The purpose of our visit was to learn how to disagree.

Okay, please don't flame me I am being honest. If you guys have read any of my posts, you know that I really do not like my SD. Not for lack of trying, but I just can't bring myself to enjoy her company, or the idea of her for that matter. I'm never mean to her, i'm always respectable during visits, but while I smile on the outside during those visits, i'm gritting my teeth on the inside.

Whenever I inform my H about some way my SS11 has disrespected me,been dishonest, or has disobeyed in some way, he always fires back at me with some "unimportant thing" my BD has done? As in, leaving her shoes in the living room??? Example: "honey just wanted to let u know, ur son has carved his initials in the window screen"...his response, "well ur daughter left her school book on the kitchen table"!! WTF??? how does that even compare??? UGHHHH

I'm sorry that you seem to have this delusion that you can control what goes on in OUR (eg., not your) home. For your sake, I would suggest that you get your head out of your ass now. I don't care if your kids are here or not. When they're here, it's because it's LEGALLY FH'S TIME. Not your's, you big dummy. And when you show up at my house Saturday, like I know you will, you'll get one warning to get the hell off my property and then guess what? YOU'RE GOING TO JAIL, and I'll be laughing the whole time. You cannot take those kids out of this home when it's FH's time. Period. Try it.

BM was just IN my House for an emergency family conference with DH and ME and the kids regarding the kids' behavior at her house and their attitude towards her!!

OMG. The things you do for your stepkids and the man you love!

HAVE to blog about this, but also HAVE to get to bed.
Sorry. More on the weekend.