How do we quantify love for a child and how do we quantify support or how support is spent? It is not possible.

In MOST cases (but not all) CS is just part of the CP household income, it blends in with the rest of the income and is used to pay the bills and there are no issues with how it is spent because the CP is caring, responsible and is not out to screw the NCP. At least that is how it appears to me.

First I would like to say I am new to this sit. didn't know there was anything like this out there.

I'd like to thank everyone (again) who commented on my post yesterday. You all gave me great advice and a ton to think about.

Sd9 mom lives across the country and sees her twice a year...Result? Sd lives w us full time...and I mean fullll time....too afraid to spend the nite anywhere. So why does sd tell mom when she calls once a month that she's the best mommy in the World? I'm more of a mother figure and yet I can't get used tothat idea and feel like I can't step upand be that for her. She's cold to me and barely hugs me goodnite. Any Advice?

I know this has been asked before, but how do you cut ties with someone that you love? God I love my H, but I am so over this marriage because of what it has done to me as a person (killed my self-esteem) and how I feel about marriage based on this experience (that marriage is so OVERRATED and NOT my "cup 'o tea".)

My posted yesterday that my bro got custody of his boys. He was so happy he posted it on face book. Now the bm his soon to be ex comment "hahahahaha"

So what do you think about the comment? I am kinds confused to what she is trying to say or get across???? :?

I found this site several months ago and have felt so validated reading through past posts. Bought StepMonster and read through it in one sitting. Just wish I had all of this information 18 years ago when I met DH.

A few months ago we talked to BM about trying to start night-time potty training with SS3. He's totally the type of personality that he's lazy about most things. We figured he is just lazy with his night time peeing, too -- that he knew he had a pull-up on so instead of getting up to go to the bathroom he would just go in it. I vented on here that BM refused to do it. She said she refused to clean up a mess every night.

Well as some of you can tell by my reply posts, I am in a rather good mood today I don't know if it will last or not but it feels good darn it! lol

I am confused about my role in our step family. I am the SM, there is only one 9 year old son in the home, no other children.
I am a stay at home wife and I have SS every other week. I take him to school and pick him up from school. Pretty much most of the responsibility of "mommyhood" is on me when he is with us.
The problem is that the other adults (including his dad (my husband), have issues with this and want to put him in before SCHOOL care and after SCHOOL care because I spend more time with him then they do!