I posted awhile back that I was making plans for the time when it is just me, my ss7 and my daughter while my dh is at work. Will it has been 5 days and it looks like it is helping. Plus the fact that he is taking his ADD medicine may be helping to He really liked the idea of getting stars for doing the chores and being able to earn rewards, not big stuff, $1 toys from doller tree or choosing what we have for dinner.

So SD9 will be staying with her BM once school is over since we refuse to pay for a camp without BM's help!. Which means SD9 will be BM's for most of the summer since BM is unemployed(lazy bitch refuses to get a job.)which also means I will have to deal with SD9's freaking Awful behavior once we have her on the weekends.

I've asked advice on this matter before and gotten mixed results. I really want advice again as some things have changed.

Excellent article here. Especially the part about prosecuting those who report abuse as a vendetta against their ex-spouses (most likely for DARING to move on)

http://epaper.abqjournal.com/Olive/ODE/AJEDITIONS/LandingPage/LandingPag...

So on Wednesday DH said SD12 asked if a friend could come for Friday night. I asked which one and when he told me I said "absolutely not, anyone but her." So I decided to not mention anything else to DH until he said something first. He still hadn't said anything this morning so I asked him how many people I needed to cook supper for. He said "SD is bringing her friend." I asked if it was the friend I said I didn't want here and he said yes. I asked him why he would even check with me if my opinion didn't matter. He said that he knew if he told SD no that she wouldn't come.

I offered to pick the skids up yesterday afternoon from school. SS6 had a baseball game at 6p, and he had left his uniform at our house last week. It was easier to pick them up than to drive to BM’s house at 5p when DH got off of work for SS to change. We agreed that I would pick skids up, and we’d meet BM at the game.

Things aren't all doom and gloom around here, some things have definitely been getting better. As evidenced by this pick-up drama that happened last week.

Ok am I the only one who gets superpeeved when SKs show up in illfitting or unsuitable clothing.

I remember when I first started reading this site and seeing lots of replies and advice (not just to me, but in general) that pretty much all boiled down to:

1. You're not skid's parent. Don't act like it.
2. Don't engage with BM. Make DH deal with it.

I, like so many other new and/or idealistic SMs had so many reasons why this advice does not and should not apply to me. MY situation is so different! I'm special! My DH is not like that! SD needs me! I'm more like her real mom, I have rights too! La la la!

And now to all that I just say, HA HA HA HA HAAAAAAAA

Lately, I just can't stand SS10. He's so weird!! And he has the strangest humor. He acts like he's so starved for attention, but he's not! I give him way more attention than I ever got. His mom gives him even more than I do. It's not like these boys are without parents at any time. I can't understand it. I relate much more to SS15. He's independent and loves to get attention, but doesn't go searching for it. That's how I was. I never based who I was on other people.