I have been married for 1 month but we have been together for 3 years. I feel like I'm just getting to know him in some ways.

http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/?p=17285

Which by inference, means there are more guilty daddies with children out there looking for a "good woman" to provide them:

1. childcare
2. maid/laundress service
3. chef services
4. financial support for previously enjoyed family
5. "fringe benefits"

But of course, with ZERO say as to what goes on re: their previously enjoyed family.

Single women. . .RUN!!!!

Had my first child 19 days ago and I couldn't be more in love with her. Only problem is now I can't even tolerate my SS. He has done nothing but be a rude, mean, manipulative shit and I dont want anything to do with him. Sad part is neither does his BM so he lives with us full time. It's getting really hard not to show my dislike. I have no desire to be around him or have him here.

I woke this morning thinking about my feelings toward the situation of my husband 's plan to bring his grandchildren here to visit. There was a time I felt close to these kids,in fact I spent almost 3 of the first 4 years of this marriage raising some of them to keep them out of the foster care system. After the last one went home I have not involved myself with any of them. Once again Katrinkie wrote a post that hit home for me,because I too had felt the children just did not want any relationship with me.

I am the BM of twins whom are 11 years old. I have a SS whom is 8 years old. My husband and I have been married for 2 years. Things are terrible. It is to the point on the weekends that he visits I start getting upset and angry that night prior. Let me just first start off by saying I am a very loving and patient person. I feel terrible that I feel this way towards my SS. My husband keeps assuring me things will get better but they are not. If anything they are getting worse. It is to the point that my BC do not even want to be home when he is here.

SS4 is coming to stay with us for the whole week next week (first time EVER), but I am a little worried because he is a very picky eater. DH has NO patience and gets really frustrated when SS wont eat, then SS gets in a pissy mood and it is even harder to get him to eat.

He only even eats with us on Sundays and we usually have chicken because it is his favorite and he eats that no problem, but if I have to have chicken for a week I think I might stop eating

http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/miss-manners-aunts-anger-a...

I agree with what Miss Manners said. Does anyone know if she's written any other stepfamily advice?

I really want this relationship to try and work between SO/FDH and myself. Not only because of the kids, but also because I do love him...

He has been trying hard lately to try and understand everything with all the stress he's been under at work at such. I can understand that, but I'm sick of being put last and the last 2-3 weeks, I have really been at him!

No counseling as yet, as we cannot afford it right now ... But I do see a psychiatrist every baby appointment, which are every 2 weeks.

Has anyone here gone to court in AZ? We are taking BM back to court for modified parenting time of 50/50, they did their mediation last week, and were unable to agree to most things...They did agree on a few holidays but that was all. Funny how things changed when I came into the picture after the divorce...the lets get a long and figure it out for the kids flew out the window.
Just Curious if anyone has any advice. She has an attorney and we do not, my husband says we have nothing to hide and no reason to get one. I disagree. Any help would be great.
Thank you

that I have to see her dumb name in my inbox almost daily. Well atleast since we started this email/Google calendar business. I don't know if I like that.

Oh, and she's so dumb that she added her next pedicure, highlight, manicure, hair cut, facial, and brazilian wax to the KID'S calendar rather than her own...so we got an 'invite' to all of these appointments. I emailed her and alerted her about it and she goes, "ohh. Oops."