SD7 came for her summer visit with the phone as promised. My DH always picks her up alone because I don't want anything to do with BM or her crazy mom. 10 minutes into the drive to our hotel, SD had already made and received 5 phone calls! She was so excited about the phone, what little girl wouldn't be? We had a long drive, over 10 hours to our state, so DH and I decided to let her have free reign of the phone during the trip. BIG MISTAKE. That first day there were 48 freaking phone calls made and received, between BM, BM's mom, BM's sister, and BM's boyfriend. 48 phone calls!

BM Redneck has invited us (SO, SS8, SD7 & myself) to attend SD’s (now 14) birthday party at her house on July 30th (her birthday is today). SO was told by BM Redneck that SD14 said “they (we) won’t bother showing up because Anywho hates me so my dad won’t bother coming because of HER…I HATE HER!!”…

Okay I need advice on what we need to do if we are changing our visitation with SS3.

A quick background narrative. We married after being divorced for many years from previous spouses. He single for 20 years me for 14 years. Neither of us had anything to do with the others breakups. We have an amazing loving relationship. We made an agreement when we got married all kids (3) would be "our" kids not his not mine but ours. We treat them all equally. They all get along and like one another. Fast forward 20 years. BS is 39, BD is 38 and SS is 35. SS just got married. Daughter in law loves SSD me not so much.

I mentioned BM Redneck’s brilliant idea in a recent blog. SO has decided that he will not be having a “sit down & clarify” meeting with BM Redneck & the SD’s simply because he doesn’t think it will do any good. He told me that he has SO MUCH he would like to confront BM Redneck about & that doing so in front of the girls would do more damage than good…he doesn’t feel like he can have an open conversation with her as he knows she will not tell the truth.

So, SD 18 - The one who stole my panties, trashed my bathroom,, trashed my closet, lied to everyone, told my kids I am a bitch - is leaving today. She stayed with friends and her BM while here since she won't admit to anything! BM left yesterday with out SD and today DH calls and says that SD has nowhere to shower! I said- fine - you come here with her and I will go out. He's at work -I said fine - she calls me, apologizes for all her shit and she can shower. Of course - this causes a fight between my DH and I. Fast forward - she is not ready to apologize and will shower at her friends.

DH and I have been married for 3 1/2 years, together for almost seven. We have had a lot of nasty "step-related" issues mostly caused by BM, in-laws, SK's and his inability to think of anyone but himself.

So much had gone wrong pretty much starting the minute we got engaged until about a year ago. Just to give you an idea:

Up until now, BM has been adamant that SD15 is not allowed a Facebook account. But now, it seems she may bend, subject to monitoring, which DH and I agree with. Before y'all warn me about FB shenanigans, I already know what drama it can cause.

My husband had to take SS to the hospital because he was dehydrated. He did not even drink water because he wanted to prove something. We heard him puking quite badly so off to the hospital they went. I was terrified. What if the people inn the hospital think we did it purposely and charge us with child abuse? Luckily, they put SS on some drip for a few hours and set him back home. Of course my husband feels badly and was hand feeding SS oranges. SS mananged to totally manipulate the situation. I told my husband he has to leave with SS and go live with his parents.

Ok, so first I want to say thank you to all who welcomed me. I think that I may have come across as too harsh with my first post... as I thought that this was a way to VENT and not to be attacked but I may have been wrong. Anyway, I do care for my SD and I do EVERYTHING for her. About the ice cream, which I think most people couldn't get past, it wasn't that she reminded me it was the attitude that accompanied the reminder. I am the first to say that if we promised the children something, then we should go thru with it, good or bad, but it was the attitude with each reminder.