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This is what can happen if you think things will get better

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 10:23am

My cousin has been married to her dh for 20 years the whole time he has cheated on her. Including with her sister. She refused to leave him saying it will get better and he will stop each and every time he did something. He has been on drugs for the last couple of years. Plus every time she says she will leave he threatens suicide.

Flash forward to monday night. It happened yet again but this time he beat the crap out of her so she took the kids and left. He texted her later and said he was going to kill himself yet again. She ignored him but when she went back th4e next day he did kill himself.

My point is that if you are in a situation like this please get out it is not worth it. These people are very selfish and they don't care about you or their own kids only to control you.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 10:46am

Yes my cousin is free however they have 2 kids that is in the middle of this mess. Plus I told her to leave him after he cheated with her sister. That was 15 years or so ago. If she would have left his sorry butt then (at point he had cheated several times) then this wouldn't have happened like this. Plus she wouldn't have gotten beat all the time. I know easier said then done but man 20 years???

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Submitted by skylarksms on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 10:53am

It's too bad that it took her this long to get out. Obviously, the guy had unresolved mental issues. Sad story all the way around.

I hope the kids get counseling so they don't end up blaming mom for dad's death.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 10:55am

me too. I really don't understand why she stayed? It was nothing but drama and walking on egg shells with him including for the kids.

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Submitted by somerg on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 10:58am

OMG!!!! :jawdrop: :O Sad

HOW DEVISTATING, regardless the kind of person HE is

sending prayers to your cousin Sad

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Submitted by skylarksms on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 10:58am

My H has also threatened suicide if I leave (which I intend to). My hope is that he is too lazy to go through with it.

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Submitted by sasha101 on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 10:59am

How terrible for her - this is not her fault and he's used the worst kind of emotional blackmail on her. He is responsible for his own behaviour and it was his decision to take his life. I just hope that she doesn't blame herself because she has nothing to feel guilty about - it's just a shame she put up with his abuse for such a long time.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 11:04am

I know I was hoping she would leave his sorry butt. He was really bad to her very emotionally abusive. As you can tell by the constant threat of suicide. I will tell her that they all in counseling

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Submitted by stormabruin on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 12:34pm

My heart goes out to your cousin & her children. What a heartbreaking ending. At least it's an ending, though.

Perhaps she'd have never mustered the strength to leave him? Now they can begin their healing.

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Submitted by Butterflykisses... on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 12:48pm

I've seen a total of 3 suicides in my life. Every one of them I tried to prevent from happening. I do not blame myself at all. I did at one time though but realized that no matter how hard I tried, they would have done themselves in eventually anyway.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 12:48pm

Yes I certainly hope so. Her dd posted on face book yesterday "fuck is all i have to say :(' she is 16. I think she wanted him stop his nonsense and let them have a life but not dead.