Not much to report here.

Life is going fairly well...just waiting for YSD to finally age out in May. CANNOT WAIT.

She is here this week. I had a long heart-to-heart with DH over Thanksgiving break where I was able to say a lot of things that bother me about being a stepmom and cause resentment. I brought up his switching visitations from EOWE to randomly-spaced weekends and weekday visits as a huge issue for me.

DH: "But I asked you before I did that. I asked for your input."

Me: "Yes, you did. And I expressed my concerns...which you promptly dismissed...and then you went ahead with the schedule as you'd planned the very next day."

DH: "I did? What were your concerns?"

Me: "I was worried that weekday visits would make visitation exponentially more difficult for me...having 12 days between one visit and 5 days between the next...would make me feel even more out-of-control and the visits feel even more disruptive. I was worried that, since YSD is a senior who gets out at noon now, and I work from home 3 days out of the week...that weekday visits would be stressful for me, trying to get my work done...would cause more work for me during the already stressful work week...more cooking and meal planning...basically, I was worried that doing visitation this way would make everything that I hate about visitation feel...even worse."

DH: "Oh. And is that how you felt all year?"

Me: "Yes."

Anyway...long story short. DH is going back to EOWE visits starting January 1, and I couldn't be more thrilled. Can't believe I was finally heard about something. This has not been our worst issue or area of miscommunication, but it has been a sore sport all year and I'm happy to feel like my needs are being considered more regularly now. As the kids have gotten older...DH has gotten more invested in us and our future, which is great.

How are the holidays treating everyone so far?