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Freaking picture issues again.

Willow2010's picture

We have two extra rooms in out house. We turned one into an office and one into a game room.

SS sleeps in the office when he comes to visit a few times a year.

Last night, I hear DH talking to SS and he says..."Send me some more pictures of yourself, for your wall".

So this following convo happens...

ME: What did you mean when you asked SS to send pic for his wall?
DH: I am making a wall of pictures of just SS in the game room.
ME: Why?
DH: Because I want to.
Me: I really think you need to put them in the office where he sleeps when here. No need to have a memorial to just SS. If so, it needs to be in the room he sleeps in not in the game room. I am sure you would not like for me to make a wall of pictures for my DD and DS and none of SS...
DH: But you see your kids all the time. I don't get to see SS that much. Your kids are here. mine is not.
Me: I don't care if my kids were far off, I see no need for a wall of pictures of just them.
DH: Then you and I are different.

I honestly do not know how to get it through his skull, with out him thinking that I just don't like SS, that a wall dedicated to just SS is freakingly stupid and weird and it grates on my last nerve.
UGH. Frick and frack!!!

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Willow2010's picture

BWAHAHA..that is going to be exactly it. I think I will call it the Gaylord wall from now on, if he does not take the crap down. That will make him mad and me happy, happy, happy.

kathc's picture

Do you have a bestie or VERY trusted relative you can enlist? (Even better if it's a relative on HIS side!)

When the wall of SS is up...they come over...look at it and say to DH "How come you only have pictures of SS up? Where's the ones of BS and BD?" and let him make his stupid ass comment about SS not being there much. They can then reply, "hunh. That's kind of creepy. People usually only do stuff like this if someone dies"

Unfreakingreal's picture

Do you have a hallway that you can dedicate to family photos of EVERYONE in the home? Pinterest has the best photo walls. I have one in my hallway and I have pics of everyone there. Skids, my Bio's, their girlfriends, siblings, everyone. It's beautiful and everyone is always stopping to look at the photos.

Drac0's picture

This is exactly what we have done. The main hallway on our ground floor is dedicated to family photos.

attempting_to_maintain_composure's picture

We don't have one particular area, but, we have family photos scattered around the house - fireplace mantle, living room wall, hall near bathroom, and fridge (photo magnets). And there are more than just pictures of SD, there are pictures of the rest of the family too (nieces, siblings, parents, grandparents).

Totalybogus's picture

Not to mention that it really wouldn't be fair to your own kids. It probably would hurt their feelings. Its all or none.

Drac0's picture

What if you suggested you decorate the room with something that is tied to the actual activities you use the game room for? I have a game room too and that's what I did. I decorated with it fantasy posters and fantasy world maps (Middle Earth, Game of Thrones, etc).

And Former AA is right. DH doesn't want a wall of photos of his son, he wants a memorial shrine.

DaizyDuke's picture

The "kid" is an "adult" who has a dang shrine of their adult kid hanging on their wall? What a dork.

Was he wearing his stupid "My son is way better than your kid because he's in the military" t-shirt while he was telling you about his planned shrine?

Willow2010's picture

Bwahaha..yall crack me up.

BTW...he did finally relent and admit that the shirt was stupid and insulting and he did not get it.

I would not have been seen in public with him if he got it.

Willow2010's picture

What really burns my butt about this is that I think he is doing it for other people and not himself. I don't really care if he makes a shrine to Gaylord, (I am going to use that from now on Miss K!) if he puts it in the office where only he and I go.

But he wants it in the game room where everyone else gets to see it. (Family, friends ect)

It just feels like he is doing it for bragging rights. Look at SS in the military ect.

DaizyDuke's picture

Is it a big surprise to your family/friends that SS is in the military? Did they all miss this tidbit? Don't understand his wanting to flaunce it around.... hopefully he'll realize that this is about as ridiculous a notion as the tshirt and change his mind.

Oh, and my DH would NEVER have the gumption to go have picture printed, buy frames, mount them etc. NEVER... the only reason we have pictures hanging in our home is because I do all of that. Would your DH actually do this??

Willow2010's picture

Oh, and my DH would NEVER have the gumption to go have picture printed, buy frames, mount them etc. NEVER
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DH normally would not Daisy. BBUUUTTT..SS is coming in December, so, as that time gets closer, DH is going to get more wacked out about it and get stranger because he is trying to make sure SS is impressed and SO HAPPY to be home. So he might actually take the time to do it.

He still competes with BM during these visits.

Sick.

Unfreakingreal's picture

LOL, your DH is weird as fuck.
These men are so damn annoying!
I think a shrine is just so bizarre.

Willow2010's picture

LOL, your DH is weird as fuck.
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LOL..honestly, he usually is not so weird. ONLY where SS is concerned.

I guess I should be grateful that it is only a few times a year for now. I am already dreading when he gets out of the military. And that is about 4 years away. lol

QueenBeau's picture

That's so sweet you let your husband have a say in decorating your home.

If my DH said this, I would have said "No." & walked away.

I have pride in our home, >>I<< clean it & keep up with it, therefore I have to approve all decorating decisions. Lol

Jsmom's picture

I like the idea of a family wall of pictures. DH and I had a lot of pictures and when we moved in together it was hard to decide what to keep. So as you go up the stairs in our house are all of the pictures of everyone and my extended family and his. It makes the house more personal and I love the walls now. Some had to have frames changed and some were just painted so they are all black frames now.

There are only a few pics in my sons room and they are special ones for him of his late father and grandmother, all other pictures are in the hallway. It is nice for both of us and a great compromise on blending families.

Willow2010's picture

DH gets the yard... I get the house.
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And that is pretty much what we do. Except for the dang game room. In all actuality, my DH paid to have that room built for MY DD when his son decided to move in with us suddenly. SS got her room and she got the new one.

It was her room til she moved out a few years later and DH was going to change it to a game room after that. He said he wanted to do it in Texans and Oilers memorabilia and I told him he could do whatever he wanted with THAT room. (This was probably 4 years ago.)

Biting me in the butt now.

HadEnoughx5's picture

Oh, I think it's funny to call SS Gaylord. I would watch the movie with DH and comment about it when you get to that part of the movie. Ask DH if he thinks it was appropriate in the movie :?