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UGH. Look at this nonsense from Reddit…

TwoOfUs's picture

Haven't been here in forever but had to come by with this annoyance. 

Bio-mom collided with bratty son to decorate his room at dad and stepmom's house.

of course reddit and takei's followers of Facebook say dad and stepmom are the assholes and boundary-pushers for being upset and wanting to be involved...not the sabotaging biomom who redecorates a room in a home *she doesn't own* without even asking.

FML.

 

https://www.facebook.com/205344452828349/posts/5765635033465902/?d=n

 

 

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shamds's picture

The bio mum overstepping and buying furniture for ss for a home that doesn't belong to her and forcibly inviting herself over to exhubby and new wifes home and allowing her son to slam and lock door in the new wife's home

hell no!!! Those commenters seem oblivious to basic boundaries 

Elea's picture

The comments show how collective knowledge of how post-divorce works and how stepfamilies work is extremely lacking. It's shocking considering how common divorce and remarriage is, especially in the US. It's no wonder that most 2nd and 3rd marriages end in divorce. Stepfamilies get little community support. This is why I don't bother trying to explain myself or my family to outsiders. I deeply don't care what people think and can do without ignorance or judgement. As long as DH and I are a team, the rest can take it or leave it and that includes SK's and BK's.

shamds's picture

They just don't have the balls to confront skids or hubby about it like basic manners/respect/ boundaries and rudeness. Their kids however are amazing and repeatedly called out my ss on all his bullshit treatment to us. He actually laughs when his cousins call him out on his unacceptable behaviour like he takes pleasure in them acknowledging what he is doing is unacceptable but then claims to my husband he doesn't do that stuff on purpose but knows he does it (which means he is actively engaging in that nonsense behaviour) then claims he's suffering imaginary stress syndrome 

Winterglow's picture

The comments are breathtakingly iquite soùgnquite somethiorant. So you buy a home and you're supposed to let some other woman step in and decorate one of the rooms? And the little prince is allowed to do what he likes because it's "his" room? And the father seems to be oblivious to the fact that being divorced means that you don't interfere in your ex's life to the detriment of his new wife.

I find myself wondering how the new wife really feels about her husband's set up with his ex. A divorce can be as friendly as you like but the exes should both know their places and not impinge on the other's relationships. The bm is much too pally here.

tog redux's picture

"iquite soùgnquite somethiorant"  I actually googled that to see if it was French, even though I didn't think so.  It just brought up your post, lol.  Guess it's autocorrect-ese.

tog redux's picture

Frankly, I think they were all assholes, except Abel, lol.

Mom has no business decorating her ex's house, Michael was rude to his stepmother, SM was ridiculous for being hurt that he didn't want her help (not that his mother overstepped, she has a right to be annoyed by that), and the father had no business grounding him. What should have happened is that DAD should have told his son that he would help him decorate if he wasn't interested in having his SM's help.

And what's the deal with the father having to "concede" to letting his son see his mother for half the month? WTF?  It does sound to me like he was hoping to replace Mom with his new wife.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

The dad is an invertebrate, there's an astonishing lack of boundaries all around, and the tail wags the dog in the home.

Cookieboom's picture

I will never go on that site again.  I posted before about my situation with BM and was basically chastised.  I was told BM is not slandering me and BF is the one at fault for her breaking into his Icloud account and getting out sexting messages for court.  (Not sure if you have followed my stories, but BM won’t let BF see SS until he dumps “that skank”)

I was told that there is not three of us in this situation, this is between my BF and BM and “THEIR SON.”  I was told that I am overly interested in BM and BF was going to lose custody because of it.   I was chastised for sexting with BF that isn’t a smart thing to do (She showed up at court with our sextings,).   Lastly I was told that the judge has seen this before and he realizes my unnessary involvement.  Never again I tell ya!!!!

Winterglow's picture

Oh gawd, I've never been there and you have just convinced me never to go there!

Exjuliemccoy's picture

I commented on that post, pointing out how inappropriate it was for BM to be doing any decorating in BD's home and how she was stomping boundaries. I think I also said something about the SM being mistreated in the home she helps pay for?

This is just one example of how ridiculous Reddit can be. The emphasis is on stroking fee fees instead of speaking truth or even offering a differing pov. I've been banned from a few subs for daring to disagree.