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Anyone ever sent a "Thank you" note to judge

prayerhelps's picture

Submitted by prayerhelps on Fri, 02/12/2010 - 8:54am

I know a lot of judges are not with it in Family Law on seeing things right. But, ours did. We thought for sure we would lose custody of SD16 last summer, and prepared for it. However, judge saw that the permissive parenting BM was doing was causing SD to not reach her potential, so kept PC w/DH. Thank goodness she did.

SD was angry at first, but has settled, set goals for school and for technincal school after HS. SD has FINALLY made peace w/fact that she CAN love both parents and not feel like betrayal to her BM.

I thought I would send a not to Judge, letting her know how well we think SD is doing in just past 9mos. What do you think?

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BMJen's picture

Submitted by BMJen on Fri, 02/12/2010 - 9:09am

I think it's a great idea. Why not? I'm sure the Judge would love to hear that her decision was the best one for the child, and how the child is doing because of her choice to keep her in the better home! Yay Judge!

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Submitted by Pantera on Fri, 02/12/2010 - 9:12am

I agree, why not? It's nice to get a thank you every once in a while no matter who you are.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

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Submitted by stepmasochist on Fri, 02/12/2010 - 12:20pm

I don't think it'd be a problem. I once thanked our judge in person shortly after, about a week after DH initially got custody.

It was at a community event and I had just taken a new job and the judge came up and introduced himself to me and shook my hand and said, "Hi I'm (his name), the judge in (his) court." And I told him, "Oh yes, I was in your court room last Friday." And he looked at me quizzically and I said, "It was the matter of (DH's name)." He showed he recognized what I was referring to and I just said, "We sure do appreciate you." And he nodded and we moved on to another topic.

He was definitely awesome - like he demanded BM be strapped with some kind of CS obligation despite DH saying it wasn't necessary, and I'm glad I got to show our gratitude even in such a small way. I think a simple note would be kosher. Then when she comes up for re-election (if elected and not appointed) keep her in mind and talk her up or help out on her campaign.