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Sunflower1's picture

Hey everyone,

I think I need to have my head examined! FDH and I have so much on our plate right now it’s ridiculous.

Custody issues, FDH and I went and saw one of the best fathers’ rights attorneys in town. I think talking with him helped FDH realize that he doesn’t have to put up the emotional abuse tossed his way if he doesn’t grovel. Two weeks ago he got 26 texts in less than an hour, all because she wants to change things up. As I’ve said before, FDH does a great job disengaging, but he also sometimes goes along to get along. We are documenting everything and hope that things can be worked out in mediation. He is waiting to file though. I’m just thankful he has an attorney.

Buying a house, we just bought a home! Way stressful situation though. We discussed the situation and decided to put the home solely in my name, just to protect ourselves in the future. We will be doing a pre nup to make sure FDH is protected as well. Not very romantic, but we want to insure we are covered if god forbid anything happens down the road.

Wedding, unfortunately any time we try to discuss the wedding with FSD she shuts down. So we aren’t going to push it. She knows we would love to have her there, but I think some things are being said at her mother’s home that are discouraging her. Maybe not, either way I still love her and our relationship is progressing. Recently my schedule changed so I can spend time with her on the weekend. It’s been wonderful, although it seems like it takes a while for her to warm up. Is this pretty common? First night she won’t talk to me much but by the end of her visit she talks to me constantly. I think I read somewhere this happens with loyalty conflicts, thoughts?

School, Last semester is almost halfway done! I can’t wait for it to be over! When I started three years ago, I thought this day would never come. My head should have been examined then too, working 50 to 60 hours a week and taking an over full time class load. Whew. Now I have to start working on grad school apps. Still debating on whether to go for my masters first or just apply to law school now.

All and all, even on the days I feel like I’m going crazy, things are going well. FDH and I are getting stronger and working together on all the issues that come up. Any way just wanted to update you all!

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Sunflower1's picture

Agree, he doesn't have a court order, but will be filing for one soon. Hence getting the attorney. BM threatens to take him to court all the time but I think him taking the first step has taken the fear away. And we both know she won't file because that would take away her unfettered "power" that she is convinced she has. FDH of course helped her feel that way from going along to get along for so long.