Your SD sounds like my OSD19, who just left for college. She is a royal bitch mini-wife. Talks down to me and tells me I am immature like she is all hoity-toity. And she doesn't pick up after herself for shit. Tonight is the first night I have actually enjoyed being in my kitchen because I cleaned it. She would blow through there and make a mess all of the time! I could never think of any good one-liners to use on her in the moment besides the obvious, and she would ALWAYS sass back. Always. I found that very disrespectful, but no matter what I would do, DH would just sit there and calmly try to intervene while SD19 worked her magic. You know, we can't be mean to SD19 or put her in her place because she has anger issues. You want to see anger? I hold it in for about 8 months as well and then I go off. This summer was horrible, I was a prisoner in my own home. I decided to let DH handle her and he walked on eggshells as much as I did. If I would try to talk to her, she would bitch me out and then start crying and try to leave the room. At which point I would get sarcastic and tell her to sit her ass down. I would probably blow a damn fuse if I let it escalate. She is impossible and there is no BM to go back to. I need to get my armor ready for Thanksgiving break.

~ Moon

Go Grandpa, GO! He is old school and I LOVE me some tradition, Rags! LOL He needs to throw the breaker switch for her area so her alarm doesn't go off in the morning and the power doesn't work in the restroom!

Our laundry room is a large closet off of the bedroom hallway upstairs, so we have accordian doors on it, nothing to lock. It's feet from everyone's doors. Yay fibromyalgia, right? LOL

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I got spooked by a tstorm today and sat in my basement for an hour. I started writing down every chore in the house that needed to get done. Next, I wrote what frequency they needed to be done, i.e. daily, 1x/week, 2x/week, 5x/week, EOW or monthly. I made two sheets in Excel, one for the daily 9/1 - 9/7, and then a sheet for EOW and monthly chores. Next I put my initial, DH and SD13's initials everywhere and divided up chores. I called a quick huddle this evening and said that if their heads spin, imagine what I feel like trying to do it all by myself, or reminding someone, or reminding someone and it not getting done....or reminding someone and getting crap/disrespect for it. And I'm just ONE PERSON. I outlined it for SD13 for tomorrow and her first reply was, "Wow, I only have four things to do tomorrow. I can do that." I was relieved. This entire list thing is to keep DH in check and let him into the world of being a SM, and being crapped on. It was a fair list, so we'll see how it goes. I've never done this before. Fingers crossed. Training DH in Parenting 101.

On another note, SD13 was cleaning her hamster cage today and found him 4 paws up in there. He was 2 years old to the week, and BM had given this pet to SD on her 11th bday. I think he had died earlier in the week, because hardly any of his food was gone from last weekend. Also, DH takes SD13 to her second therapy session since she announced wanting to be a boy last weekend. She still hasn't done her therapy assignment, but we'll see what happens.

Things are better with SD19 gone at college. She actually called DH today and said she needed quarters for doing laundry. Whut?! :jawdrop: She even has her car on campus now! He told her to go to the bank. Lazy Skid. I went off on him and reminded him again that she was 19 FFS. He told me to calm down lol. Wait until she comes home and I rotate her ass through the chore list. }:) }:)

~ Moon