School Attendance and Grade Issues
HHB didn't go to school again yesterday. That is 2 Friday's in a row that she didn't go to school. So far, by my calculations, she has missed 11 days this semester, which is 2 days more that she is allowed by state law (state law is that she must attend 90% of the semester to get credit, and there are 90 days of school in each semester...5 days * 6 weeks * 3 grade periods). Why do I care? As I've mentioned before, DH has to pay child support until HHB graduates from high school if she is not graduated by the age of 18. HHB turns 18 March of 2017, and is supposed to graduate May of 2017...meaning, May 2017 was to be the LAST month of child support. However, at this rate, it appears currently that this graduation date is going to get pushed out until May 2018...meaning 12 extra months of child support because BM cannot parent enough to make HHB get at least passing grades AND have proper attendance! Sure, HHB didn't get the best grades while living with us, but she at least passed everything and we wouldn't let her miss school "just because". HHB has already had more absences in 4 months at BM's than she had in 2 years with us! This affects me, because I'm already covering part of DH's share of the household bills because he has to pay child support, and he does not make enough monthly to cover child support, his bills, AND his half of the household expenses (mortgage, electricity, water, trash, internet). So, the longer he has to pay child support, the longer I have to cover. I have a bio in college, which technically, since DH adopted my bios, DH is supposed to be equally responsible for, but I'm paying 100% of BS20's expenses myself!
As of a couple of weeks ago, HHB was supposed to make up the 4th and 5th grading periods for several core classes by computer. I don't know what her other grades were, but she was carrying a 28% for the semester in chemistry. I'm seriously doubting she has done any work on this, and she has only about 4 weeks left of school for this school year. Chances are pretty high that she isn't doing well the 6th grading period, either...and we don't even want to think about finals in a few weeks that count as 1/4 of her semester grade! Of course, BM has no interest in making HHB do well in school, because she KNOWS DH still has to pay child support as long as HHB is in high school, and the state will not kick her out of the school system until her 21st birthday! BM actually makes out well if HHB is a 5th year high school student! The girl will probably NEVER be home (because with HHB's current attitude, once she turns 18, she will surely pull the "I'm an adult, and I'll come and go as I please" crap), and BM will still collect money! I find myself praying every day that HHB will just drop out after this year (seeing as emo girlfriend is supposed to graduate anyway) and get her GED! That will be the BEST option for everyone! As much as the girl likes to try to say she wants to go to college, she already shows she doesn't have what it takes to be a college student. She is best to try her hand at community college or a trade school!
Well, today is prom day. DH is on his way to go drop off child support money. Surprisingly, BM hasn't bothered to try to call or text him yet. I fully expected her to be screaming about the money on Thursday, because HHB would want to get her hair or nails done to be her girlfriend's date at the prom. If I would have to guess who is the "girl" in the relationship, yeah, HHB is definitely the more girly one...hair, makeup, nails all have to be on point! Oh wait, the FRONT of HHB's hair has to be on point...she never bothers to look at the back which always looks like a greasy, multi-colored mess from bad self-dye jobs! DH decided that he would go ahead and go drop off the money so that he wouldn't have to deal with BM screaming at him while we were at church in the morning, or while he was at work Monday, because she usually picks the absolutely wrong time to start throwing the money fit! I wonder if she will try to tell DH she needs more again when he goes to drop it off. I also wonder how that dress is working out for HHB! The HHB I saw last weekend was at least a size 10, and that dress is only a 3!